| Author | Message | ||
     Rasputin Hero Username: Rasputin Post Number: 11886 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 192.146.101.24 Rating: N/A |
Andari situation okey laaga undadu kada. Naa case lo nenu only kid. Vallu ikkada undaleru, last time vachinappudu 6 weeks ke baaga ibbandi paddaaru. Intha bathuku bathiki life lo last stages lo anaathallaaga bathakalsina kharma vallaki ledu anukuntunnaa. An idea is like a Virus. | ||
| Saint Comedian Username: Saint Post Number: 1871 Registered: 01-2011 Posted From: 166.205.137.108 Rating: N/A |
US lo enduku vuntunnam ane clarity vundali first....US lo vundi emi sadhinchali anukuntunnam? Naaku ithe reason emi kanapadatam ledu.. But ikkada vunte peaceful gaa systematic gaa vuntumdi life ... India lo vunte tensions.. Chirakulu ekkuva.. Konni konni darunalu choostha vunte kadupu ragilipotha vuntadi... ippatiki ithe maa vallu dooram gaa enduku venakki vacheyyi antunnaru.. Mother ki no health probs.. N very active.. So inko konni years no probs.. If at all I have to go back.. Happy gaa ellipotha... May join in some college as a faculty member near our village ... If I go back to India after 4-5 years.. I dont want to be in IT... Lecturer n will start some business (small).... So no probs thinking abt career...As long as i am in US.. I will be in IT I'm not a Saint. | ||
| 156 Junior Artist Username: 156 Post Number: 317 Registered: 09-2008 Posted From: 93.96.126.51 Rating: N/A |
I understand that. Also, I know that I am fortunate that my sister is in india when they are there. Parents situation ki perfect answer ivvalenu, if i am the only son and they cannot move to uk, then i wont think twice to move back to india. Kaani pillala vishayam lo just be positive, create happy family atmosphere and it will be fine anna suggestion.. ante. | ||
| Ram1 Junior Artist Username: Ram1 Post Number: 717 Registered: 09-2010 Posted From: 98.233.137.10 Rating: N/A |
nenu adhe cheppa evari choice valladhi ani ..but pillau nammakam ante disco chesina..ok lite.. | ||
| Oohlala Comedian Username: Oohlala Post Number: 1357 Registered: 09-2008 Posted From: 173.36.196.11 Rating: N/A |
that is the major difference, not all parents can do that | ||
| 156 Junior Artist Username: 156 Post Number: 316 Registered: 09-2008 Posted From: 93.96.126.51 Rating: N/A |
anyway, its my personal opinion. just because it works for me doesnt mean its the same with everyone else. just thought i would put my opinion forward. no offence meant | ||
| 156 Junior Artist Username: 156 Post Number: 315 Registered: 09-2008 Posted From: 93.96.126.51 Rating: N/A |
ikkada chinna difference entante, manam pillalani vadili india velladam, manani vadili pillalu vere country ki velladam. Naa vishayama varaku, I enjoy my life in UK. nenu vacchindi money and comforts kosam. that is my choice. same way, my kids will also choose their future. naa parents every 6 months uk vastaru, summer lo ikkada enjoy chesi winter to they spend time in india with my sister and relatives. daaniki manama edo mana parents ni adavullo vadilesi vacchinattu endu dialogues | ||
| Ram1 Junior Artist Username: Ram1 Post Number: 715 Registered: 09-2010 Posted From: 98.233.137.10 Rating: N/A |
happy ga bhatikeyachu..kapothe eppudu ekkada bhane vundhi ..nijamga avasaram anukunte happyga veltha nenu a package ki..e vishayam lo kkd,knf e adharsam | ||
| Ram1 Junior Artist Username: Ram1 Post Number: 714 Registered: 09-2010 Posted From: 98.233.137.10 Rating: N/A |
manam mana parents ni vadilesi raaledha ...malli money kosam vacham future kosam ani cheppaku plzz | ||
| Ram1 Junior Artist Username: Ram1 Post Number: 713 Registered: 09-2010 Posted From: 98.233.137.10 Rating: N/A |
first thing nenu kids anna kaani india lo ithe super analedhe ,second thing negetive a thokka ...nenu chusina world lo naaku anipinchina vishayam cheppa so lite tisuko | ||
| Rajusk Hero Username: Rajusk Post Number: 15584 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 192.234.99.10 Rating: N/A |
avasaramaithe accept seyyaka sasthama kaani..vastundi ani telisi kooda preparation lekapovadam anedi mistake..ani naa thinking | ||
| Thelegend Moderator Username: Thelegend Post Number: 8090 Registered: 04-2008 Rating: N/A |
accepting the change/truth is the key, life lo elanti inevitable changes ki ayina. Appudu early life crisis, midlife crisis, late life crisis em undavu  | ||
| Rajusk Hero Username: Rajusk Post Number: 15583 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 192.234.99.10 Rating: N/A |
India lo ippudu ...25 to 30 lac packages kooda unnai..for 10+ exp...inka antha kante ekkuva kavalna.. | ||
| Mikkymouse Side Hero Username: Mikkymouse Post Number: 8649 Registered: 04-2008 Posted From: 216.111.115.3 Rating: N/A |
Maree ekkuva think chestunnaremo. Mana parents ki mana avasaram vache time ki mana kids colleges ki vachestaru anukunna. So manam appudu valla kosam venakki vellina evariki problem undadhu kadha. Ee lopu every year okasari trip veste vallaki happy and manaki happy. | ||
| 156 Junior Artist Username: 156 Post Number: 314 Registered: 09-2008 Posted From: 93.96.126.51 Rating: N/A |
this is pure stereotyping all the kids in abroad. US lo vunna pillalu peddayyaka mana maata vinaru, India lo maatram manam cheppinattu vinataru anukonte, adi mee bhrama. Asalu mee sontha pillala gurinchi inta negative belief enduku? Mundhu vaallani trust cheyyandi. Anta nammakam lenappudu inka pillalani kanadam enduku, time, money and effort petti penchadam enduku, anta ayyi perigina taravata vadilesi, india vellatam enduku? glass half empty ante em cheptam? | ||
| Kuyyo_morro Side Hero Username: Kuyyo_morro Post Number: 4705 Registered: 02-2011 Posted From: 63.76.147.112 Rating: N/A |
After the kids are old enough (18-21) it would be awesome if they get out of the house and go do/achieve something than sitting at home. Bayataki velthe exposure vastundi. Back-up ga parents untaaru. India lo matram hostels ki pampara. | ||
| 156 Junior Artist Username: 156 Post Number: 313 Registered: 09-2008 Posted From: 93.96.126.51 Rating: N/A |
okay annai. I am in UK and its different here. you dont need to worry about healthcare. mari nenu musaladayye sariki health care ela vuntundo teloyadu kaani medical care in India is now a days not only expensive but I just cannot trust the private/corporate hospitals now in India as I had lot of bad experiences. | ||
| Oohlala Comedian Username: Oohlala Post Number: 1352 Registered: 09-2008 Posted From: 173.36.196.11 Rating: N/A |
thats me
thans my hubby | ||
| Ram1 Junior Artist Username: Ram1 Post Number: 712 Registered: 09-2010 Posted From: 98.233.137.10 Rating: N/A |
shame to same mind set naadhi kuda | ||
| 156 Junior Artist Username: 156 Post Number: 312 Registered: 09-2008 Posted From: 93.96.126.51 Rating: N/A |
bhayya, i can understand your feeling. But trust me, all you need to do is give time and love to your kids. Main thing for kids is to see their parents being happy. Grand parents is an added bonus. Just prepare yourself to be independent financially and just enjoy the phases that your kids go through. I am not a parents yet myself. But okko saari nenu kooda ekkuva alochista. Just provide them with a happy family environment and everything will work out smoothly | ||
| Rajusk Hero Username: Rajusk Post Number: 15581 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 192.234.99.10 Rating: N/A |
that's the conclusion.. | ||
| Ram1 Junior Artist Username: Ram1 Post Number: 711 Registered: 09-2010 Posted From: 98.233.137.10 Rating: N/A |
andhuke chepthunna india best once financial ga manam ok anukunte..malli entha money ani q lu vaddu adhi person ni batti vuntadhi like padsri ki 10 ekaraalu nalantollaki 5 ekaraalu ala | ||
| Idiot1 Comedian Username: Idiot1 Post Number: 1035 Registered: 07-2008 Posted From: 199.245.32.210 Rating: N/A |
anna bottomline na ghar ke na ghaat ke manam | ||
| Rajusk Hero Username: Rajusk Post Number: 15580 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 192.234.99.10 Rating: N/A |
Ram vuncul..nuvvokkade naa point catch chesinavu.. | ||
| Ram1 Junior Artist Username: Ram1 Post Number: 710 Registered: 09-2010 Posted From: 98.233.137.10 Rating: N/A |
bha cheppav | ||
| Ram1 Junior Artist Username: Ram1 Post Number: 709 Registered: 09-2010 Posted From: 98.233.137.10 Rating: N/A |
hahaha ...2 months vunte anni set ithai one year ithe weather ,doma darlings kuda alavataipothai...main certain age achinaaka mana pani manam chesukodam ante health issues ,bhadhakam lenollaki ok ...mana parents mana pillalni take care chesinattu manam a chimidi mukkus tudavalem anedhi naa feeling ..happy ga mari mana padmasri antha kakunna edho 5 ekaraalu andhulo illu kalachepam friends ,fresh air tho life bindhaas vuntadhi anukuntunna inga pillalu ante maname mana parents ni 2 years kosari chusthunnam mana kids ki antha chitram ledhu anukuntunna eppudu bhane palkutharu pillalu kadha peddhayyaka valalki antah timundadhu valla job,earnings, private life tho busy itahru anukuntuna.... | ||
| Andhrawala Side Hero Username: Andhrawala Post Number: 8485 Registered: 03-2008 Posted From: 152.51.56.1 Rating: N/A |
to make the buck longer. Ikkada provate insurance ki premium pay sese dabbulatho yappygaa India lo life vellatheeyocchu | ||
| Raman Side Hero Username: Raman Post Number: 3535 Registered: 01-2009 Posted From: 159.182.1.4 Rating: N/A |
provide facilities to parents in india like interned and laptops do video chats as regularly as possible bring them once in while if the are not willing to settle down here ivi temporary solutions kaani they make ur/their life better anukunta I do not have any probs I will leave to India soon in another 6-8 months | ||
| Goonda Hero Username: Goonda Post Number: 16500 Registered: 02-2007 Posted From: 98.66.26.223 Rating: N/A |
naa mindset nenu india vadili vachinappatidi.. 99 lo vacha.. naa mind lo inka idli Rs.3.50, city bus ticket minimum Rs 2.00, andhra mess lo meals Rs.25 and biryani Rs.50 lo aagipoyindi.. basically communication gap vachindi.. every time i go to india.. i feel i can not fit into this environment.. emiti ee rate lu ani.. antey.. i'll forever be in that mode. | ||
| Rajusk Hero Username: Rajusk Post Number: 15572 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 192.234.99.10 Rating: N/A |
if the kids have seen you loving/respecting your parents first hand..then it is possible.. ikkada chaala mandi kids see their grand parents once in 2 years or even less as they grow older (unless the grand parents are subsituting for baby sitters..).. appudu how will kids know how to deal with that situation when they grow up | ||
| Goonda Hero Username: Goonda Post Number: 16499 Registered: 02-2007 Posted From: 98.66.26.223 Rating: N/A |
for you i think it will be difficult mama, as you are the only one for your parents. | ||
| 156 Junior Artist Username: 156 Post Number: 311 Registered: 09-2008 Posted From: 217.64.239.32 Rating: N/A |
asali pillalu independent ayyaka, india velipovatam enduku? Just make sure you are financially independent and be around kids. Vaallaki kooda space kaavali kada? UK vacchina taruvaata nenu nerchukunna main thing is that you need your own personal space. I enjoy having my own privacy for 6 months and then enjoy with my parents when they are here for 6 months. Funny thing entante, because we were sort of lower middle class when i was a kid and it was just one bedroom for everyone. nenemo maa amma nanna madhyalo padukoni oka kaali amma meeda oka kaalu nanna meeda vesi padukonevaadini. Without being nasty, we do not realize that there was not much of privacy and freedom for our parents because we do not realize the importance of it. I feel that they have made a huge sacrifice always catering to children and their needs. Mana culture lo personal freedom ki peddaga value ledu. Even society accepts that its normal for parents to cater to the kids at the cost of their own privacy. I am not trying to say things work wrong in India, but I love my privacy and I love my time with my family. sometimes its lovely to wake up and drag yourself into lounge with wife and not worry about being dressed appropriately or worry about cooking or etc etc as parents are not there. When my parents are with us, we do need to watch our behaviour out of respect and love for them. Bottom line, pillu independent ga life start chesina taravaata, enjoy your private time with your partner and be around your kids and watch them grow old with their kids etc etc. India venaki vellopoyi em saadhisataru? America lo pillalu independent ga life start chesinanta maatram it doesnt mean that they dont love you. | ||
| Bushu Side Hero Username: Bushu Post Number: 3842 Registered: 04-2009 Posted From: 12.30.230.138 Rating: N/A |
anduke once in 2 yrs elli update cheskuntu undaali  | ||
| Kuyyo_morro Side Hero Username: Kuyyo_morro Post Number: 4697 Registered: 02-2011 Posted From: 63.76.147.112 Rating: N/A |
Meeku 55-60 vachaka India lo ivaala/mee chinnappudu thelisina vaallu and others will be busy or some wont be there. India will be a different place. Meeru vadili vachina India ki meeru vellali anukune India ki chaala difference undi. | ||
| Andhrawala Side Hero Username: Andhrawala Post Number: 8484 Registered: 03-2008 Posted From: 152.51.56.1 Rating: N/A |
I feels thats the best. Retirement life ki India best. Ikkadaa 60-65 years tharuvaatha vundalante health insurance is major killer. India pothe Krishna, Ramu antoo bhathakocchu. Once in two years make trip to US and spend time with children/Grand children in summer. Pinancial dependence kids meedha vundadhu kabatti pedhaga issues raakpovachu with son in laws/daughter in laws anukuntaa Since our kids have more independent think we have to keep our opinions with ourself instead of voicing them | ||
| Rasputin Hero Username: Rasputin Post Number: 11877 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 192.146.101.24 Rating: N/A |
Raju, ippudu immediate gaa decision teesukovalsina avasaram leud kada? Why bother about it now. Antha mundu choopu anavasaram. Life ni enjoy cheyyandi veelu ayinanni rojulu. When the time comes, we will think about the parents' situation and make a decision. An idea is like a Virus. | ||
| Bushu Side Hero Username: Bushu Post Number: 3833 Registered: 04-2009 Posted From: 12.30.230.138 Rating: N/A |
close cousins, friends and siblings - out of india untey, talk to them and convince them that we should go back to india around 50 - 55 age. pillalu college kellinaaka or once they start working, I am planning to go back. kani mana kantu oka eco system undadhu apudu, gotta build it. memu around 3 friends are mentally ready. ekada puttinaamo, akkadne povaaley. very important. | ||
| Rajusk Hero Username: Rajusk Post Number: 15564 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 192.234.99.10 Rating: N/A |
rathri nunchi naa dimak kharab ae undi..podduna nunchi alochistunna thread veyyala vadda... Akira/Rocky threads choosi..inka aagale | ||
| Ram1 Junior Artist Username: Ram1 Post Number: 707 Registered: 09-2010 Posted From: 98.233.137.10 Rating: N/A |
once pillalu settele ayyaka back to indIA SHESHA jeevitham gaduputahremo | ||
| Emc2 Side Hero Username: Emc2 Post Number: 4436 Registered: 03-2008 Posted From: 199.107.16.132 Rating: N/A |
gee threads susina kadikelli poddununchi na dimak karab ayindi.. manchi idea seppav..don't want to think about it and spoil the mood..  cherapakura chedevu. | ||
| Driverramudu Side Hero Username: Driverramudu Post Number: 3171 Registered: 02-2009 Posted From: 76.90.247.136 Rating: N/A |
having so many souls around whats the use? most of them are looking after u physical departure who is gets most of share from your earnings/savings. either way I would suggest solitude is good for sensitive soul. Driving is my PASSION. No matter of what I must reach my Final Destination. | ||
| Rajusk Hero Username: Rajusk Post Number: 15563 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 192.234.99.10 Rating: N/A |
time period emi ledu..parents/siblings ni desam lo vadilesi videsalu poyinavadu.. this thread is more related to people who are only son..only daughter..or all sons/daughters who have left their parents in india | ||
| Sensexxxxx Side Hero Username: Sensexxxxx Post Number: 2505 Registered: 08-2011 Posted From: 171.159.64.10 Rating: N/A |
rajugaru///1st gen ante time period cheppandi....and migatha enni gens unnayo cheppi vati time periods cheppandi..mem a generaton oo idea vasthundi | ||
| Rasputin Hero Username: Rasputin Post Number: 11874 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 192.146.101.24 Rating: N/A |
I don't know what I am going to do. But, I don't want to spoil my mood thinking about it or planning for it now. Just go with the flow until the decision time comes. An idea is like a Virus. | ||
| Rajusk Hero Username: Rajusk Post Number: 15562 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 192.234.99.10 Rating: N/A |
vere thread lo post vesa.. 1st Generation NRIs ki unde challenge ide..on one hand..they have to deal with the challenges of the new world..and most of them are happy that they left India behind... on the other hand..they soon know that they will be not left with many souls around..when their kids move out..in between is what their life is..where they feel that they have conquered the world..anukonta |
