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     Bushu Side Hero Username: Bushu Post Number: 3643 Registered: 04-2009 Posted From: 12.30.230.138 Rating: N/A |
precisely my point.
because he knows they will give him what he wants only if he behaves that way. adhey repo ellundo epudo apudu thechistharu, idhi kaabothey inkoti, ane nammakam untey kurrodu atla cheyadu. | ||
| Anand_n Hero Username: Anand_n Post Number: 10298 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 167.24.104.150 Rating: N/A |
I used to have a friend. Oka roju ardharatri walgreens ki vellanu ante emi ayyindi evaraina sick aa ani adiga. Kadu ma abbayi(3 years) saw a toy on TV and wanted it right then. He was screaming his head off and refused to stop. The neighbors will complain so we went to walgreens to get him the toy andi  aa chal ke tujhe main leke chalu ik aise gagan ke tale jahan gam bhi na ho, aansoo bhi na ho,bas pyaar hi pyaar pale | ||
| Humpty_dumpty Moderator Username: Humpty_dumpty Post Number: 16612 Registered: 02-2009 Rating: N/A |
despesh maaya...nenu nee type yay nuvvu chapter 1 laa unnav this tv-food thins has been going on in my home for close to 2 yrs he started eating slowing so that he can pace himself to watch two episodes of Garfield 2 days back, wifey gave up on this...put him at the table ...edsi edsi oka 1.5 hrs dinner tinnadu ninna day2...food table meedha petti, all da best seppi gym kee jump ayya 30 mins later tension tho door open esaa...eti ayyindhoo ani he runs to me saying I have been a good boy and finished food at the table ani twist : before going to sleep on day 1, he says sorry mom I behaved bad while eating food ani don't think kids dont get what is good or bad...they do | ||
| Anand_n Hero Username: Anand_n Post Number: 10297 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 167.24.104.150 Rating: N/A |
There is a difference between threatening and setting expectations Setting expectations is Saama - threatening is bheda I never had to us eth threat part because setting expectations worked beautifully Patient ga explain chesina, strict ga enforce chesina - rules are still the parents' rules- its not the kids making rules - don't see how the kids get any more freedom either way No parent gives in a 100 percent to the child's demands - where they draw the line is different ante Below the line andaru indulge chestaru This thread is about how to enforce the things you think are above the line. I think screaming in the store to get a toy is above the line, someone else may think its below - that's the only differenceaa chal ke tujhe main leke chalu ik aise gagan ke tale jahan gam bhi na ho, aansoo bhi na ho,bas pyaar hi pyaar pale | ||
| Oohlala Comedian Username: Oohlala Post Number: 1232 Registered: 09-2008 Posted From: 173.36.196.8 Rating: N/A |
Andaram "sama' tho ne start chestamu, escalate ayyinappudu "bedha" strategy But cops vachi pattukeltharu ila kadu, we ask them to come back to their normal state, before we can discuss their ask/demand.... Desp, difference is you are referring to making them sit in a highchair and we are talking about making them sit in a car seat while driving. can't explain it better than that.... | ||
| Yodha Comedian Username: Yodha Post Number: 1784 Registered: 08-2011 Posted From: 173.199.160.76 Rating: N/A |
LOL nijamga call cheyadu kadhi chinnathanam | ||
| Bushu Side Hero Username: Bushu Post Number: 3642 Registered: 04-2009 Posted From: 12.30.230.138 Rating: N/A |
mee odiki 911 concept thelisthey inka neeku ithadey  oke okka sari nenu wifey meedha arichinaa that she was handling him roughly ani and the cardinal mistake, did that in front of him. anthey, every time she shouts at him, he used to come to me and complain, mommy hit me. first time, I actually believed him and then saw through his story soon. it took me almost 2 months to make him understand no one believes his story. these kids are just too much. | ||
| Bushu Side Hero Username: Bushu Post Number: 3641 Registered: 04-2009 Posted From: 12.30.230.138 Rating: N/A |
accepted
emo thee, anni try chesi idhe best ani decide ainaa nenu. ee time outs, go sit in a corner lu, dont understand your cry language etc etc .. are just us showing our oneupmanship over them. and then they spend time trying to figure out what's the next best way to circumvent our shackles. waste of time and a bunch of negative energy flowing all around. | ||
| Humpty_dumpty Moderator Username: Humpty_dumpty Post Number: 16611 Registered: 02-2009 Rating: N/A |
BEDHA lo oka bumper offer undhee maa vodu, I am not happy with you, I will call the police ani annadu...kiki | ||
| Spy_india Side Hero Username: Spy_india Post Number: 6248 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 50.47.60.122 Rating: N/A |
exact ilaa kaadu gaani nenu idi chestunnanemo  oka roju ma vodu nenu etla ochaanu mi daggaraki ani adigaadu ..em seppalo teliyaka vadiki tleisina prapancham lo bashalo COSTCO lo pattukochaam ninnu .. akkada cute ga nilchoni unte ani joke chesaa edanna pechilu pedite .. nanna nuvvu naaku kopam teppistunnaav .. COSTCO lo return ichestaa ante nijame ani nammesi maanesevaadu .. pillala amayakatvam ento muddostadi emi analemu koodaa okokka saari | ||
| Yodha Comedian Username: Yodha Post Number: 1782 Registered: 08-2011 Posted From: 173.199.160.76 Rating: N/A |
Humpty anni name pettalsidhi meedhi pette swarry anni | ||
| Desparado Moderator Username: Desparado Post Number: 7007 Registered: 02-2009 Rating: N/A |
nen ekkada bedhainchana vayya | ||
| Humpty_dumpty Moderator Username: Humpty_dumpty Post Number: 16608 Registered: 02-2009 Rating: N/A |
awunaa annai...sabha mukham gaa sorry cheptunnaa...mislead chesinanduku ippudu pillal nee susi bunty wig pettukuni tiruguthaada eti that ridiculous scene was obviously to make a point ... you skipped one part where I said "pampering"
meeru cheppindhay nenu cheppataaniki try chesaanu see the utube link nani posted...dat is a tantrum | ||
| Yodha Comedian Username: Yodha Post Number: 1781 Registered: 08-2011 Posted From: 173.199.160.76 Rating: N/A |
When our child behaves in a way unacceptable to us and we want to set it right in the most appropriate way to make him/ her learn and behave, is smacking one of the acceptable ways? It is the question before us. There is an ancient, oft-quoted formula available in Hindu philosophy which is actually meant for kings/ administrators. When a king/ administrator comes across confrontational behavior from his subjects, how should he react? The suggestion is known as "sama-dhana-bedha-dhanda" in Sanskrit language. Each word denotes an approach; they have to be practiced in the given order. The same formula can be rightly and successfully applied on the erring children too. Now let us understand what these words denote: "SAMA": It means a patient and soft advice, which is the first step. Explain to the child softly as to what is wrong in his behavior and why you can't accept it. "DHANA": It means a gift. When the child refuses to heed to the soft advice, bait him with an offer of gift. While you are shopping in a mall, you child gets attracted by a very costly toy and he/ she throws tantrums demanding you to procure the item. When your soft counseling fails, you make an offer to buy him/ her a (cheaper but a) cute looking T-shirt containing a Micky-mouse picture at the front. Some children do amicably settle for the alternative. "BEDHA" : it means, "OR ELSE"; simply put, threatening. This is the third step when the previous ones fail. "You keep standing and crying here; the rest of us will leave you here all alone and go home; You can keep playing with all the toys; At night, the shop owner will come and hand you over to the police!" "DHANDA": It means, the quintessential "Rod". You know it already: "Spare the rod and spoil the child". Yes! IT IS THE LAST RESORT - when every one of the previous steps fails. For the most obnoxious child, the rod does help. Children start developing stubbornness and the art of throwing up tantrums in a willful manner some time above two and a half years of age. Even below this age, they do it, but not too willfully - it has its charm of its own and the parents do get some amusement out of it. At that tender age, it is quite entertaining and even joyful to see children indulging in such acts. It is also much easier to divert the child's mind from such a behavior. But once the children start doing it in a willful manner, their intention is to test waters - to gage as to what extent they can negotiate and maneuver their ways with their parents. Each hild has its own "moral quotient" or a personality trait even at the tender age. Some children back-track their faux pas upon counseling; some upon getting a gift; some upon hearing the threat and some only after getting the smack! Some people argue that smacking is violent and no violence is permissible on the tender children who have no power to defend themselves. Perhaps they are not quite adept in understanding children psychology. When a child knows for sure that parental affection is the reason behind smacking (and children do possess this capacity of judgment very well developed in them), they do not develop hatred on parents. The word "affection" is to be stressed here. On the contrary, if an alcoholic father hits his children for no fault of them but only as a mode to ventilate his frustration against his wife or a if a mother hits her children for a petty cause just to release her pent up tensions of her office, these are obvious cases of abusing children; these are not acts based on affection. Children will not take such beatings lightly until the parents express some form of regret, not necessarily in the form of verbal apology, but in some way the children can perceive. Children do not carry vindictiveness as grown-ups do. I have seen several times that my children behave rightly after receiving a smack or two at the appropriate stage and they never carry a grudge on account of it. In fact, during dinner time get-togethers with my (presently) teen aged children, we use to joyfully recall the skirmishes they did in their childhood and the beating they received and have a hearty laugh about them! Another important point to bear in mind is the age up to which we can use smacking as the last disciplining weapon on children. I would safely say that we can do it until the children reach puberty. Around that age, children develop a complex mindset which detests being treated as little children. Smacking teh children beyond this age generally starts producing negative results even if the parent is fully justified in their act. At this stage, the formula should rather stop at Sama-dhana-bedha. No more dhanda Spy,Anand,Olahahala, desparado veelu "BEDHA" strategy implement chesthunaru Bushu anni nuvu seppindhi correct first Sama tho start cheyali | ||
| Desparado Moderator Username: Desparado Post Number: 7006 Registered: 02-2009 Rating: N/A |
My whole point is parents can be flexible on the point of not relenting or giving in to kids tantrums.....actually comming up with tantrums on their own is some thing to take pride as it takes creative mind....so its ok to give in some times anukunta!! (Message edited by desparado on October 28, 2011) | ||
| Desparado Moderator Username: Desparado Post Number: 7005 Registered: 02-2009 Rating: N/A |
ok shop ki velli naku idi kavli adi kavali aney age inka ma vadiki raledhu.....so nenu exp seina incident septha......my son is 15 months now ...frm last month my wife wnats him to get used to to high chair.....tv lo rhymes petti high chair elagaina lavatu seyyali ani thana aim....na iam tintey chalu ...oka fews days lo high chair lavatu iyyaka one day he din't want to eat in high chair although he was hungry .....so i let him out and fed him.....antha mathrana high chair alavatu poledhu | ||
| Bushu Side Hero Username: Bushu Post Number: 3638 Registered: 04-2009 Posted From: 12.30.230.138 Rating: N/A |
honestly bro, I have NEVER seen ANY kid make such ridiculous demands. I know you are just making it up but when you do this to make a point, people will think this is actually true. it is not. | ||
| Bushu Side Hero Username: Bushu Post Number: 3637 Registered: 04-2009 Posted From: 12.30.230.138 Rating: N/A |
trust me, I did. I just started viewing it differently. saama, dhaana, bhedha, dhandam lo saamam is the most effective ani naa belief. with kids specially. they are too precious for us to show off our frustrations or project our power. | ||
| Humpty_dumpty Moderator Username: Humpty_dumpty Post Number: 16607 Registered: 02-2009 Rating: N/A |
kind of close description correct one is buddod: daddy naaku bunty unkl bald head kavaali dynamic daddy: undu amma oka saari aduguthaanu(pampering) DD: bunty gaaru, oka saari ilaa randi, maa vaadu mee bald head pai tunak tunakk... bunty : bemmi shocked expression...rao gaaru enti idhi DD : adjust ayipondi...maa vodu needs to express himself bunty: jump amma buddod: naaku tunak tunak kavaali...waaa waaaa...ani kindha padi dorlings ...idhay paychee/maaraam (Message edited by humpty_dumpty on October 28, 2011) | ||
| Bushu Side Hero Username: Bushu Post Number: 3636 Registered: 04-2009 Posted From: 12.30.230.138 Rating: N/A |
what is a tantrum? it is a tantrum to YOU because you dont approve of what they want to do. when you have no issue with whatever they want to do, there's no question of a tantrum. so, you are in the store and they want you to buy something, and you refuse, they throw a tantrum. you set a rule such that they dont have to be refused, there's no tantrum. | ||
| Desparado Moderator Username: Desparado Post Number: 7004 Registered: 02-2009 Rating: N/A |
what exactly is that???...at the most they want more things than u planned at the first place anthey kada....kinda article lo claer ga rasaru....public place lo deal seyyadaniki it requires more patience rather than being firm!! | ||
| Oohlala Comedian Username: Oohlala Post Number: 1229 Registered: 09-2008 Posted From: 173.36.196.8 Rating: N/A |
Hyder, Desp & Bushu - from your comments below, I don't think you have experienced tantrums Meeru list chesinavi evi tantrums kadu and we are not talking about them. | ||
| Chitti_v2 Comedian Username: Chitti_v2 Post Number: 1932 Registered: 01-2011 Posted From: 160.83.72.207 Rating: N/A |
ante maaraam ante telugu padam vaadi touch sesaav humpesh...iffudu eligini...telugu medium kadaa........oka buddod vochi i like bunty uncle, aa uncle tho aadukuntaanu ante oka rakam.....ade i like bunty uncle's bald head, aa head meeda daruvu esthaanu ante adi inko rakam....anthenaa | ||
| Desparado Moderator Username: Desparado Post Number: 7003 Registered: 02-2009 Rating: N/A |
things which we cant afford or time wont permit we dont do anyway.....time undi park ki teesukellamantey....ippudu adgaganey teesukelthey vadiki alvatu ithadhi....adganey konithey alvatu itheadhi ani seyyakunda undam kadha????cheppi ellali cheppulu esokoni vellali anam kadha | ||
| Chitti_v2 Comedian Username: Chitti_v2 Post Number: 1931 Registered: 01-2011 Posted From: 160.83.72.207 Rating: N/A |
ante wine laa alaa paduntaadani adigaa dreamesh | ||
| Dreamcatcher Side Hero Username: Dreamcatcher Post Number: 2204 Registered: 11-2009 Posted From: 208.86.145.68 Rating: N/A |
>>> u take them to party city and they want to pick quite a few things frm their....we guiding them what to pick!!....ain't it the hypothetical situation which led to all the disscussion???.... >>> Discussion is about what to do when your kid starts creating a scene in party city without any regards to your guidance. Hope you got the difference. | ||
| Humpty_dumpty Moderator Username: Humpty_dumpty Post Number: 16604 Registered: 02-2009 Rating: N/A |
yehaaa...neeku allari , pechi/maaraam kee difference thelvadha | ||
| Dreamcatcher Side Hero Username: Dreamcatcher Post Number: 2203 Registered: 11-2009 Posted From: 208.86.145.68 Rating: N/A |
Chittesh, ippudey enduku vayya neeku ivanni...aina septa inu. Pampering antey nuvvey mee avida pattu cheeralu appudappudu utikipettadam. Tantrum antey, mee aavidey ninnu 'naa pattu cheeralu utukutaava leda' ani adagatam. :-) Artham ayyindanukunta ippudu. | ||
| Desparado Moderator Username: Desparado Post Number: 7002 Registered: 02-2009 Rating: N/A |
why wud anyone let a toddler to cross the road???.....u take them to party city and they want to pick quite a few things frm their....we guiding them what to pick!!....ain't it the hypothetical situation which led to all the disscussion???.... | ||
| Chitti_v2 Comedian Username: Chitti_v2 Post Number: 1930 Registered: 01-2011 Posted From: 160.83.72.208 Rating: N/A |
ee tantrum ante endo seppandi....humpesh ni adigithe nee pellaam bugga gilladam pampering, pakkintodi pellaam bugga gilladam tantrum ...ilaantivi septhunnaadu | ||
| Dreamcatcher Side Hero Username: Dreamcatcher Post Number: 2202 Registered: 11-2009 Posted From: 208.86.145.68 Rating: N/A |
>>> halowwenn ki they get to chose what they want to wear not what we want them to wear!! >>> Why would anyone have a problem with that? Of course you buy them what they want. How is this even a tantrum in the first place? | ||
| Desparado Moderator Username: Desparado Post Number: 7000 Registered: 02-2009 Rating: N/A |
with this busy age and life....we hardly get time to spend with kids....ah koddhi time lo "this is not right for u" ani gadapadam enduku ani....for ex....halowwenn ki they get to chose what they want to wear not what we want them to wear!! | ||
| Mrhyderabad Side Hero Username: Mrhyderabad Post Number: 9861 Registered: 01-2008 Posted From: 209.51.184.10 Rating: N/A |
Hehere.. good one. Mana parents POV lo manam inka kids ye... will always be... So they always try to advise us / guide us with their exp / learning's etc.. But we hardly listen... Mana kids topic lo maatram we want to give our valuable guiadance so that they don't have to learn it hard way.. Don't say you don't have enough time. You have exactly the same number of hours per day that were given to Helen Keller, Pasteur, Michaelangelo, Mother Teresea, Leonardo da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson, and Albert Einstein | ||
| Desparado Moderator Username: Desparado Post Number: 6999 Registered: 02-2009 Rating: N/A |
Anyday i will invest more time and energy in learning them rather than making them learn what i know | ||
| Desparado Moderator Username: Desparado Post Number: 6998 Registered: 02-2009 Rating: N/A |
lets say we know everything(been there done that) and they don't know anything so we are trying to guide them........if age and maturity is the critieria...we shd live the way our parents inlaws wants us to live  .... | ||
| Nanigadu Side Hero Username: Nanigadu Post Number: 7150 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 204.92.92.4 Rating: N/A |
meeriddaru matladutundi pampering gurinchi andukey views matching, migatha antha matladedi tantrums gurinchi, daniki deeniki zameen asman farkh hai Jo Na Janey Haq Ki taaqat Rabb Na Dewey Usko Himmat. | ||
| Desparado Moderator Username: Desparado Post Number: 6996 Registered: 02-2009 Rating: N/A |
rather they get stream lined....where is the scope for creativity....when they are forced to to act according to the whims of parents???? oka pedda post reply seddam ani type sesthuntey malli bush ochi na thoughts ni precise ga posted...gwaad when will i learn to communicate effectively pch... | ||
| Venkateswarlu Hero Username: Venkateswarlu Post Number: 10290 Registered: 01-2010 Posted From: 207.170.241.120 Rating: N/A |
Healthy gaa enduku unnaru anukunnaavu? Alaa ventapadi tinipichha batte.. and kanna talli ki telvadaa bidda ki aakali undaa ledaa ani.. Mother exactly know what her kids want/need.. In this db, there's always someone watching you!!  | ||
| Mrhyderabad Side Hero Username: Mrhyderabad Post Number: 9860 Registered: 01-2008 Posted From: 209.51.184.10 Rating: N/A |
 hammayya.. at least there is one more person in DB who thinks like me... Don't say you don't have enough time. You have exactly the same number of hours per day that were given to Helen Keller, Pasteur, Michaelangelo, Mother Teresea, Leonardo da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson, and Albert Einstein | ||
| Bushu Side Hero Username: Bushu Post Number: 3635 Registered: 04-2009 Posted From: 12.30.230.138 Rating: |
kids are amazingly flexible. so long as they are not doing things to hurt themselves, there's nothing wrong in pampering them with what they want. they will learn when it's time to learn stuff. all this 'correcting' their behavior at every chance is adults projecting their power over the kids. | ||
| Mrhyderabad Side Hero Username: Mrhyderabad Post Number: 9858 Registered: 01-2008 Posted From: 209.51.184.10 Rating: N/A |
Friends, relatives etc lo choosthu vuntaa... Kids food vaddu ante inka vaalla venaka padi, tintava chasthava type lo visiginchi, timeouts ichi sampethuntaaru kontamandi parents... Aakali ayithe vaalle tintaaru kadaa... ponee weight baaga takkuva vundi, eating problem vunna kids ayithe OK... but choodataniki healthy gaa vunna kids ni kuda enduku antagaa visiginchadam... Nenu choosinantha varaku... ilaa too much gaa discipline enforce chese cases kids ye ekkuva pechi / tantrums cheyadam choosanu... I have pampered my girl, never set the rules... wanted her to be a free bird at least for now :-) And she behaves / listens nicely... (so far) Don't say you don't have enough time. You have exactly the same number of hours per day that were given to Helen Keller, Pasteur, Michaelangelo, Mother Teresea, Leonardo da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson, and Albert Einstein | ||
| Chitti_v2 Comedian Username: Chitti_v2 Post Number: 1924 Registered: 01-2011 Posted From: 160.83.72.206 Rating: N/A |
 ante iffudu dharmam kaabatti loving seyyaalnaa | ||
| Dreamcatcher Side Hero Username: Dreamcatcher Post Number: 2199 Registered: 11-2009 Posted From: 208.86.145.68 Rating: N/A |
>>> Picture perfect parents exists only in Yashraj/Karan johar films >>> I bet even they have flaws. :-) >>> Nobody is perfect in this world... So our parents are no exception... whether we admit or not. >>> Are you saying you love your parents more because they gave you everything you want or less because they did not give you what you asked for? How is one's perfection relates to controlling a kid's tantrum? | ||
| Humpty_dumpty Moderator Username: Humpty_dumpty Post Number: 16591 Registered: 02-2009 Rating: N/A |
dollin nee kosam oka post vesaa...venjoyyy | ||
| Humpty_dumpty Moderator Username: Humpty_dumpty Post Number: 16590 Registered: 02-2009 Rating: N/A |
pamper and tantrum are too different things pamper - shiva cnmaa lo amala lanti pellam. you will want to shower her with love...buy anything you want, just to see that smile tantrum - aamani selling gajibiji bob in some movie ippudu pellam nee love seyyatam mana dharmam, yela ayina yelukovaali antay, hope you get a good buyer | ||
| Chitti_v2 Comedian Username: Chitti_v2 Post Number: 1923 Registered: 01-2011 Posted From: 160.83.72.206 Rating: N/A |
rendu ejjamples iyyi humpesh | ||
| Dreamcatcher Side Hero Username: Dreamcatcher Post Number: 2198 Registered: 11-2009 Posted From: 208.86.145.68 Rating: N/A |
>>> Pamper cheyadam lo thappu ledu >>> Sure, agree with you. There is a limit to that pampering too, kada? I don't think any parent would say no to kids all the time. | ||
| Emc2 Side Hero Username: Emc2 Post Number: 4248 Registered: 03-2008 Posted From: 199.107.16.132 Rating: N/A |
Pamper cheyadam lo thappu ledu at the same time we should teach what they are going to get out of what they want.. cherapakura chedevu. | ||
| Mrhyderabad Side Hero Username: Mrhyderabad Post Number: 9854 Registered: 01-2008 Posted From: 209.51.184.10 Rating: N/A |
Sure... why not Picture perfect parents exists only in Yashraj/Karan johar films  Nobody is perfect in this world... So our parents are no exception... whether we admit or not. Don't say you don't have enough time. You have exactly the same number of hours per day that were given to Helen Keller, Pasteur, Michaelangelo, Mother Teresea, Leonardo da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson, and Albert Einstein | ||
| Dreamcatcher Side Hero Username: Dreamcatcher Post Number: 2197 Registered: 11-2009 Posted From: 208.86.145.68 Rating: N/A |
>>> On the same note, do you think we would have loved our parent any more if they gave every ridiculous thing we asked for. >>> {Bharani whostle icon}. Super!!! | ||
| Mrhyderabad Side Hero Username: Mrhyderabad Post Number: 9853 Registered: 01-2008 Posted From: 209.51.184.10 Rating: N/A |
Nenu ade antunna.. For ex, i use to hold my daughter in my hands most of the time when she was little... Every single one said.. that's not good... 'ethu' alavaatu cheyakandi ani... I used to say, ippudu kakapothe 16 years vachaka ethukuntaama? Konchem pedda ayina appati nundi she stopped asking us to pick up her up on her own... Don't say you don't have enough time. You have exactly the same number of hours per day that were given to Helen Keller, Pasteur, Michaelangelo, Mother Teresea, Leonardo da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson, and Albert Einstein | ||
| Oohlala Comedian Username: Oohlala Post Number: 1226 Registered: 09-2008 Posted From: 173.36.196.8 Rating: N/A |
ikkada kotte chance ledu kada, andukani we need all the techniques. On the same note, do you think we would have loved our parent any more if they gave every ridiculous thing we asked for. | ||
| Anand_n Hero Username: Anand_n Post Number: 10295 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 167.24.104.150 Rating: N/A |
You are connecting different things - tantrums desam lo kuda evadu encourage cheyyadu usually - the means of controlling them is different - akkada meerannattu nalugu peeki chestaru - ikkada reason chesi or some other mechanism. But e culture lo ayina tantrums are a no-no, gaaraabam/indulgence mana peddalu manchidi kadu ane cheptaru aa chal ke tujhe main leke chalu ik aise gagan ke tale jahan gam bhi na ho, aansoo bhi na ho,bas pyaar hi pyaar pale | ||
| Dreamcatcher Side Hero Username: Dreamcatcher Post Number: 2195 Registered: 11-2009 Posted From: 208.86.145.68 Rating: N/A |
>>> What is wrong in pampering your loved one? Especially little ones? >>> They tend to get into the habit of thinking "they should get everything they want". Cruel real world will one day teach them a lesson by denying what they want. Would you want that to happen to your loved one? Instead, you can teach them that lesson at home at your/their own pace. | ||
| Oohlala Comedian Username: Oohlala Post Number: 1225 Registered: 09-2008 Posted From: 173.36.196.8 Rating: N/A |
allari gurinchi discussion kadu, robots gurinchi kooda kadu, tikka - tantrums gurinchi.... | ||
| Mrhyderabad Side Hero Username: Mrhyderabad Post Number: 9851 Registered: 01-2008 Posted From: 209.51.184.10 Rating: N/A |
Look at the history / living proofs.. Western world lo ilaanti psychological studies chesi, theories create chesi raise chesthunnaru kids ni.. Desam lo ilaantivi emi lekunda, avasaram ayithe 4 peeki raise chesaaru/chesthunnaru... Did that make us pshychos or did we develop hatred towards parents/in-genral? Don't say you don't have enough time. You have exactly the same number of hours per day that were given to Helen Keller, Pasteur, Michaelangelo, Mother Teresea, Leonardo da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson, and Albert Einstein | ||
| Anand_n Hero Username: Anand_n Post Number: 10294 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 167.24.104.150 Rating: N/A |
I already gave the answers to Bushu and Despo- Its is not about your short term pleasure is seeing the child happy - it is about the long term impact to their psyche aa chal ke tujhe main leke chalu ik aise gagan ke tale jahan gam bhi na ho, aansoo bhi na ho,bas pyaar hi pyaar pale | ||
| Nanigadu Side Hero Username: Nanigadu Post Number: 7147 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 204.92.92.4 Rating: N/A |
nenu chupinchaledu swamy, assalu ala cheyyalani idea ela vocchindo teleedu, living room lo edustuntey, sari ani vellipoyyam iddaram kitchen loki, next minute akkadikocchi malla start chesindi Jo Na Janey Haq Ki taaqat Rabb Na Dewey Usko Himmat. | ||
| Oohlala Comedian Username: Oohlala Post Number: 1224 Registered: 09-2008 Posted From: 173.36.196.8 Rating: N/A |
repu mee kid, I want to cross the road by myself ante kooda freedom of expression antara? I am sure you will "teach" them about safety and "help" them understand.... | ||
| Bushu Side Hero Username: Bushu Post Number: 3634 Registered: 04-2009 Posted From: 12.30.230.138 Rating: N/A |
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| Humpty_dumpty Moderator Username: Humpty_dumpty Post Number: 16588 Registered: 02-2009 Rating: N/A |
bhayya allari veru pechi veru we r talking abt pechi allari evariki mudhu kaahdu...neney encourage sethaa | ||
| Yodha Comedian Username: Yodha Post Number: 1773 Registered: 08-2011 Posted From: 173.199.160.76 Rating: N/A |
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gQuHgGuc7Pc ilanti pilal vunde a badha vundadhu anukunta | ||
| Yodha Comedian Username: Yodha Post Number: 1772 Registered: 08-2011 Posted From: 173.199.160.76 Rating: N/A |
keka | ||
| Humpty_dumpty Moderator Username: Humpty_dumpty Post Number: 16587 Registered: 02-2009 Rating: N/A |
intlo ittanti vdos eppudu sudaaku TV/media/peers are half the influence | ||
| Mrhyderabad Side Hero Username: Mrhyderabad Post Number: 9849 Registered: 01-2008 Posted From: 209.51.184.10 Rating: N/A |
Let me ask this.. What is wrong in pampering your loved one? Especially little ones? Ippudu kaka pothe eppudu allari chesthaaru? ee age lo allari, gola cheyyakunda istri battalu vesukoni moola kurchno books chaduvukovala? Yes, i agree they drive you nuts sometimes... but that's where you can learn to increase your patience level :-) Don't say you don't have enough time. You have exactly the same number of hours per day that were given to Helen Keller, Pasteur, Michaelangelo, Mother Teresea, Leonardo da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson, and Albert Einstein | ||
| Nanigadu Side Hero Username: Nanigadu Post Number: 7146 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 204.92.92.4 Rating: N/A |
ee video chudandi, aa kurradu ela chesado, danni as it is ga chesindi maa ammayi ninna http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KpSfThUv_pc Jo Na Janey Haq Ki taaqat Rabb Na Dewey Usko Himmat. | ||
| Blackmamba Hero Username: Blackmamba Post Number: 12016 Registered: 05-2010 Posted From: 68.200.78.90 Rating: N/A |
teluslevooo sinnappudu manaki kooda  AR annai: adhurs loss ante pokiri kuda loss ee | ||
| Yodha Comedian Username: Yodha Post Number: 1770 Registered: 08-2011 Posted From: 173.199.160.76 Rating: N/A |
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| Blackmamba Hero Username: Blackmamba Post Number: 12013 Registered: 05-2010 Posted From: 68.200.78.90 Rating: N/A |
 AR annai: adhurs loss ante pokiri kuda loss ee | ||
| Anand_n Hero Username: Anand_n Post Number: 10292 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 167.24.104.150 Rating: N/A |
Here's the flip side - you are actually curtailing their thoughts by responding to emotional fits. A kid who knows tantrums will not work will reason their wish and put it logically to you,they get creative, intead of learning to wallow in self-pity Fear of a parent curtails freedom of expression, not firmness... aa chal ke tujhe main leke chalu ik aise gagan ke tale jahan gam bhi na ho, aansoo bhi na ho,bas pyaar hi pyaar pale | ||
| Yodha Comedian Username: Yodha Post Number: 1769 Registered: 08-2011 Posted From: 173.199.160.76 Rating: N/A |
ni bandabada ala andhuku anukuntav anni sinnapudu ma frnd vala mommy vadiki pilaka vesedhi andhukamma pilaka ani vadi adigithe ammailu leni muchata ani seppedhi chala mandhi mummy lu abbailaki ammai dress lu vesevaru appatlo saradaki alane ammailaki abbay dress lu veyyadam jarigedhi | ||
| Desparado Moderator Username: Desparado Post Number: 6995 Registered: 02-2009 Rating: N/A |
nadhi same school of thought....edo good dad bad mom ani trying kadhu....i'm jst aginst the very idea of giving direction or infulenicing thier thoughts....freedom of expressionnii nammutha.. | ||
| Yodha Comedian Username: Yodha Post Number: 1768 Registered: 08-2011 Posted From: 173.199.160.76 Rating: N/A |
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| Anand_n Hero Username: Anand_n Post Number: 10291 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 167.24.104.150 Rating: N/A |
Its not punctuation substitution.I like the yellow smileys so I put lots of them and usually the smile's on my face as I am typing too - I know it irritates some DBers but that's ok they can ignore my posts aa chal ke tujhe main leke chalu ik aise gagan ke tale jahan gam bhi na ho, aansoo bhi na ho,bas pyaar hi pyaar pale | ||
| Desparado Moderator Username: Desparado Post Number: 6994 Registered: 02-2009 Rating: N/A |
Idi wrong anukunta....who ever spend more time with them and are more responsible and have abundant patience willl coneect irrespective of the gender anukunta | ||
| Yodha Comedian Username: Yodha Post Number: 1767 Registered: 08-2011 Posted From: 173.199.160.76 Rating: N/A |
Anand pinni appatnincho mimalni okati adagalaninunkuntuna Meeru vese pathi post lo smileys vuntey fullstops badhulu smileys use chesthunarani na observation correct a wrong cheppandi | ||
| Anand_n Hero Username: Anand_n Post Number: 10290 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 167.24.104.150 Rating: N/A |
You are missing the point - a kid who learns early not to throw tantrums spends less time crying and putting himself through the emotional wringer They are overall way happier kidsaa chal ke tujhe main leke chalu ik aise gagan ke tale jahan gam bhi na ho, aansoo bhi na ho,bas pyaar hi pyaar pale | ||
| Bushu Side Hero Username: Bushu Post Number: 3633 Registered: 04-2009 Posted From: 12.30.230.138 Rating: N/A |
give what they want, let them stay happy. those smiles are worth it and the crying is just a pain. very soon, life will deprive them of what they want anyways. | ||
| Kuyyo_morro Side Hero Username: Kuyyo_morro Post Number: 4033 Registered: 02-2011 Posted From: 63.76.147.112 Rating: N/A |
Mom and dad thread kabatti oka question. 2-3yr old kids gurinchi. Do moms connect to sons or daughters. Cos mom ki unna fantasies like cinderella dresses and other pinkish girly things cannot be implemented on a boy. Boy ki nikker vesi ball isthe all set. Dads understand the psyche of boys well too. Girl ante doll house and so many more things. | ||
| Anand_n Hero Username: Anand_n Post Number: 10287 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 167.24.104.150 Rating: N/A |
But on the flip side - they also know that if Mom says she'll do something for them, she will do it, no excuses. Dad - is always a 50-50 chance aa chal ke tujhe main leke chalu ik aise gagan ke tale jahan gam bhi na ho, aansoo bhi na ho,bas pyaar hi pyaar pale | ||
| Spy_india Side Hero Username: Spy_india Post Number: 6246 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 50.47.60.122 Rating: N/A |
ilaachestunte ma intlo mommy BAD .. DADDy good ane feeling lo unnaaru nenokkadane hrudayam leni talli emo anukunna ..thks naku todu unnaaru nenaite restroom loki tisukupoyi deyyam choosinatlu alaa choostuu untaa edupu aape varaku .. aa time lo emi cheppina ekkadu .. cheppina waste ani | ||
| Oohlala Comedian Username: Oohlala Post Number: 1220 Registered: 09-2008 Posted From: 173.36.196.8 Rating: N/A |
Both of you have to be consistent, don't give in to tantrums. Maa kids store enter avvagane, oka toy/book teesukuntaru, they get to hold them until we shop. check out time ki pakkana petteyali. Edisthe, van lo wait cheyandi, come out when you feel better ani chebuta. And I wait outside the van, mostly lets leave anagane tantrum agipotundi, tikka ekkuva ga vunna roju, van lo kurcho pettagane agipotundi Monna edo fair ki vellamu, cash mottam ayipoindi, nenu casual ga I don't have any more money, we can't buy anything anna. The older one got so concerned, amma do we have enough for dinner, do we have gas in the car to go home ani adigi he started convincing the little one that they can't ask for anything else So, konchem big kids ki idi work avutundi anukuntunna. | ||
| Hero Username: Twitter Post Number: 12611 Registered: 10-2009 Posted From: 151.191.175.205 Rating: N/A |
this is exactly what i follow papam maa ammai naanna nenu vastha ani adigedhi marchi poddhi , inka konni vishayallo reverse strategy vaadatha naanna kaallu noppeduthunnai ethuko(of course ahdi nijanga noppo kadho thelusu le) ante naaku noppeduthunnai nen evarni adagano cheppu mundhu anta Lets create a corruption-free India | ||
| Nanigadu Side Hero Username: Nanigadu Post Number: 7145 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 204.92.92.4 Rating: N/A |
wife tho idey pani rao garu, eppudu deniki committ avvanu, vacation antey, chala time vundi gaa chuddam le aa type nettukostha, but kid antey chala kastham, plus vallu ventaney marchipotharu, next minute navvuthu matladatharu, koncham firm ga vundi oppiddamantey papam anipisthundi, em cheddam cheppu Jo Na Janey Haq Ki taaqat Rabb Na Dewey Usko Himmat. | ||
| Anand_n Hero Username: Anand_n Post Number: 10283 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 167.24.104.150 Rating: N/A |
Doing good - how are you aa chal ke tujhe main leke chalu ik aise gagan ke tale jahan gam bhi na ho, aansoo bhi na ho,bas pyaar hi pyaar pale | ||
| Anand_n Hero Username: Anand_n Post Number: 10282 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 167.24.104.150 Rating: N/A |
Mine has always been simply - no whining , no tantrums. Eduste I used to ask- Are you hurting? Are you in scared? If the answer to both of them is no- I used to ask them to drink water,give a hug and tell them to talk to me after they stop crying cos I can't understand cry language Let them cry it out and continue with whatever I was doing. If they were really upset - ettukoni odarchatam or something like that but reiteratethey will NOT get what they were throwing a tantrum for. 2-3 times try chesaka crying stopped. Market lo tantrums -first time vesinappude - if you throw a tantrum lets leave the store ani vacheyyatam - they understood extralaki pote unnadi kuda potundi ani They learn to reason very early in life if you follow consistent behavior patterns - it is quite funny watching them learn to work around your behavior Monna ma chinnodu deniko puppy-dog face petti adugutunte - my older one was advised him -" wrong approach - you are trying pathos on someone who responds to ethos " Laughed my head off aa chal ke tujhe main leke chalu ik aise gagan ke tale jahan gam bhi na ho, aansoo bhi na ho,bas pyaar hi pyaar pale | ||
| Rasputin Hero Username: Rasputin Post Number: 11586 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 192.146.101.24 Rating: N/A |
maa office lo okathanu idey maata cheppaadu, pelli gurinchi bhayapaduthuntey. Wife ayina, Kids ayina, work ayina...same principle baaga workout avuthondi. I usually say " we will see what we can do". But, if I say NO, people stopped pushing for it (wife, managers etc). Chaala time pattindi, but the results are well worth it. An idea is like a Virus. | ||
| I140 Junior Artist Username: I140 Post Number: 372 Registered: 10-2010 Posted From: 170.63.96.108 Rating: N/A |
Anand garu ela unnaru? | ||
| Yodha Comedian Username: Yodha Post Number: 1764 Registered: 08-2011 Posted From: 173.199.160.76 Rating: N/A |
ma dad gurthiki vachindu anni e post ki touch chesav touch lo vundu | ||
| Bunty717 Moderator Username: Bunty717 Post Number: 20920 Registered: 02-2008 Rating: N/A |
...i.e do not say 'no' and give in after they throw a fit} any chitkaas.. maa 2nd kid tho ide prob.. literal ga blackmailing mamalni.. OT's own dialog: Pativrate kaani, gokite vastundi | ||
| Anand_n Hero Username: Anand_n Post Number: 10278 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 167.24.104.150 Rating: N/A |
Only one golden rule Gola cheste pani jarugutundi ane feeling vallaki rakunda chusukovatam chala critical. Be firm, be calm, {be consistent }...i.e do not say 'no' and give in after they throw a fit aa chal ke tujhe main leke chalu ik aise gagan ke tale jahan gam bhi na ho, aansoo bhi na ho,bas pyaar hi pyaar pale | ||
| Methhanithodugu Hero Username: Methhanithodugu Post Number: 12979 Registered: 12-2008 Posted From: 59.93.73.245 Rating: N/A |
sudden ga idi gurthukoachindi ... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XcPqlMfH6HE  | ||
| Guriginja Hero Username: Guriginja Post Number: 19021 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 74.176.46.144 Rating: N/A |
pusthak sadivi pillakayalni penchalante kattam...pilakayalu mata enakunte okati veyyadame....intlo atta alavatu chesthe eedhilo atta seyyaru.. JOHAR YSR.....YSR AMAR RAHE | ||
| Dreamcatcher Side Hero Username: Dreamcatcher Post Number: 2192 Registered: 11-2009 Posted From: 208.86.145.68 Rating: N/A |
Good article, but there are no set rules for controlling a kid who is throwing tantrums. We need to understand their personalities, and think through solutions based on that. General rule is, once they understand that they get what they want through tantrums, you are royally screwed. | ||
| Nanigadu Side Hero Username: Nanigadu Post Number: 7133 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 204.92.92.4 Rating: N/A |
good bagundi, meeru cheppindi, maa bujji di just 17 months now, puttinappati nunchi intlo in-laws vunnaru 9 months daka, and then she went to india came back in 11th month, so baaga garabam chesesaru, ippudu full thata teesthundi, Supermarket ki velthey edi kavalani adagadu, adigina, kontha sepu adukoni pettestundi, leda mabhya pettesthanu nenu, but daniki ekkadi nunchi vocchindo teleedu, baaga arustundi, evaritho matladanivvadu, naa tho vokkadithoney vosthey market ki kontha godava chesi calm aipotundi, adey iddaram velthey shopping ki, inka danni calm ga pettatam sadhya padadu, chala sarlu Ikea / Malls ki velli kavalsindi konakunda vocchesam, deeni gola bharinchaleka... Edanna intlo kavalantey icchey varaku vurukodu, neney koncham tight chesthanu baaga, but still kinda article chala baaga rasaru evaro kani, adi follow ayyi chudali mari Jo Na Janey Haq Ki taaqat Rabb Na Dewey Usko Himmat. | ||
| Chivuks Hero Username: Chivuks Post Number: 10755 Registered: 07-2008 Posted From: 173.39.71.118 Rating: N/A |
kids ki sinnappati ninde .. ante 6-8 months appati ninche .. ilanti tantrums eyakunda alavatu seyali saami .. first antha garabam sesi .. 3 years vachaka maruddam anukunte .. thathalu digi ravale ... papam maa pinla kai ... yada ki poyina .. emi adagadhu ... edi nachina .. idhi konalante .. boledu dabbu kavala ani aduguddi .. sinnapati ninchi .. ala alavatu sesanu ... edhi anna nachithe .. dani yeduruga konanu .. nene seperate ga elli kontanu .. koni sana dabbulu aipoyinayi .. ani septhanu ... Zandu balm .. Zandu balm .. kondaru fans ki Noppi kalginche balm .. | ||
| Emc2 Side Hero Username: Emc2 Post Number: 4245 Registered: 03-2008 Posted From: 199.107.16.132 Rating: N/A |
General ga oka formula antu undadu.. ma vadu general ga cool ,chala mature ga behave chesthadu,kani sudden ga eppudu thikka ekkuva avuthundo vadike teleedu.. appudu vadi route loki vellinattu velli divert chesi mana route loki techukovali.. for suppose super market ki vellinappudu edina kavali ani godava cheste teeuko,kavalante retun ivochu leda koncham sepatiki marchi potharu appudu pakkan petteyochu. aa article lo cheppinattu never ever pour gasoline on fire... actual ga this article is very good we follow the same most of the time.. cherapakura chedevu. | ||
| Humpty_dumpty Moderator Username: Humpty_dumpty Post Number: 16569 Registered: 02-2009 Rating: N/A |
two apporaches soft : kids attention deviate cheyyataaniki try seyyali...when then are on to something else and cooled down, let them know what happened a while back is not good behavior. since they are relatively happy now, they will be ready to abrosb what you are saying. hard : move away from scene. give them a time out . let them know why they are being punished. sometimes kids understand and sometimes they wont buckle down. you cant really stick to one approach. improvisation is the key, rest khudaa jaaanay | ||
| Nanigadu Side Hero Username: Nanigadu Post Number: 7132 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 204.92.92.4 Rating: N/A |
enti nobody is interested aa, naku just 16 months ke chukkalu kanipistunnayi, maa bujjidi, rough adistundi mammalni, especially last paragraph lo cheppinatlu supermarket / ikea / restaurants lo chala kastham ga vundi handle cheyyatam... mee mee experiences kuda postandi, ela handle chesaru, chestunnaru Jo Na Janey Haq Ki taaqat Rabb Na Dewey Usko Himmat. | ||
| Nanigadu Side Hero Username: Nanigadu Post Number: 7131 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 204.92.92.4 Rating: N/A |
Ultimately, children need to talk about their feelings of anger rather than lashing out verbally or physically. But when the first tantrums hit, somewhere around the two-year mark, children don't yet know the words to describe their emotions. So they act them out instead. Your goal in handling a tantrum is to let the child know that this behavior will get him or her absolutely nowhere. It is best to handle it without anger and without submission. Remain calm. It helps if you remind yourself that a tantrum is a natural and not a "bad" reaction to frustration and anger. Go about your affairs and wait for the storm to pass. Don't show anger or disgust. Your child is already going through quite an ordeal. Don't make it worse. Don't give in. Don't let her do or get whatever caused the tantrum. Placating your child or giving in only reinforces the behavior. Don't try to reason with the child during the outburst. Your child is a boiling sea of emotions and is in no frame of mind to listen to logic or reason. Don't threaten punishment. Saying something like, "Stop it or I'll really give you something to cry about," is like putting out a fire by pouring gasoline on it. Do name the child's emotion. When a child gets angry and loses control, say something like, "I know you're really mad now." Such a simple acknowledgment teaches kids to communicate what they are feeling and lets them know the anger is not bad. They just need to learn better ways to express it. Let the tantrum run its course. Find a way to ignore it that suits you best. For example, some parents can just stand by and say nothing. Others may say something like, "I know you're angry, but you'll need to go to your room to finish crying." Others may simply say firmly, "Go to your room to cool down." Prevent physical harm. Don't let the child attack you or anyone else or hurt himself or destroy his or others' property. If this is likely, hold him firmly but as gently as possible until he settles down. This type of hugging not only protects the child and others, it lets him know that he is loved and cared about and that getting mad will not turn his parents' hearts to stone. Remember that your child is not an enemy. Rather, she needs your help in learning mature ways of behaving. She needs to know that when she has lost control, you are there for her and will help her regain it. If you respond to her outburst with yelling or spanking, you lose the opportunity to model how to deal with upsetting feelings. When the tantrum is over and the child calms down, it is time to begin rebuilding. Wash the child's face and offer a drink of water or juice. Reaffirm that there is nothing wrong or bad about feeling angry. Then discuss what caused the outburst and how to resolve that specific issue. Once parents and children have gotten to the root of the problem, they can brainstorm together ways to express anger more productively in the future. If your child has a tantrum in front of relatives, friends, or at the supermarket—in other words, with an audience who may be judging you—handling a tantrum may seem harder for you. But try to think about your priorities. Are you raising your child to please your neighbors or to help the child be happy and emotionally healthy? Regardless of your "audience," use the same basic techniques outlined above. Pick the child up, take him or her to as secluded a spot as possible, and simply stay with the child until the tantrum subsides. Jo Na Janey Haq Ki taaqat Rabb Na Dewey Usko Himmat. |
