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     Dosakaaya Side Hero Username: Dosakaaya Post Number: 5596 Registered: 02-2010 Posted From: 166.137.137.158 Rating: N/A |
Still same problem brother.. | ||
| Chitti_v2 Junior Artist Username: Chitti_v2 Post Number: 592 Registered: 01-2011 Posted From: 160.83.73.16 Rating: N/A |
nen goodaa 2nd quote.... nenu daasari seppinattu oohinchukuntaa | ||
| Getafix Side Hero Username: Getafix Post Number: 8319 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 159.127.66.112 Rating: N/A |
pelli kakamundu entha amayakamga alochistham manam  ..I do not agree with what you have to say, but I'll defend to the death your right to say it -Voltaire. | ||
| Mega Side Hero Username: Mega Post Number: 4468 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 144.160.226.53 Rating: N/A |
Good point. The women in india have become financially independent much faster than was perceived. And the alimony, divorce laws/rules have not caught up I think. They are skewed in support of women. Even in the US, where current generation men and women had equal chances in education and oppurtunities, the law is heavily in favor of women. | ||
| Humpty_dumpty Moderator Username: Humpty_dumpty Post Number: 13678 Registered: 02-2009 Rating: N/A |
aa IP lo veray IDs evaraina unnara in ban... i think twitter is from same ID, there is no IP ban on him...please try once more and mail to admin if it does not work | ||
| Dosakaaya Side Hero Username: Dosakaaya Post Number: 5594 Registered: 02-2010 Posted From: 166.137.139.185 Rating: N/A |
Office machine lo IP banned ani vasthundhi, same happened yesterday and set ayyindhi after a while... Now again same problem... Konchem chudandi boss.. 151.191.175.204 | ||
| Film_fan Hero Username: Film_fan Post Number: 16872 Registered: 03-2008 Posted From: 81.138.131.153 Rating: N/A |
Love chesthey manaku bharya ni techukogalam kaani mana talli tandrulaku kodalini maatram 100% guarantee teesuka ralemu.. ---  We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit. -- Aristotle | ||
| Humpty_dumpty Moderator Username: Humpty_dumpty Post Number: 13673 Registered: 02-2009 Rating: N/A |
senaa...my 2nd quote on this line ee line prakash raj cheppinattu ooohinchukuntuu 2012 lo sachipovachu anukuntunnaaa | ||
| Chitti_v2 Junior Artist Username: Chitti_v2 Post Number: 591 Registered: 01-2011 Posted From: 160.83.73.18 Rating: N/A |
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| Humpty_dumpty Moderator Username: Humpty_dumpty Post Number: 13668 Registered: 02-2009 Rating: N/A |
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| Awara1984 Junior Artist Username: Awara1984 Post Number: 22 Registered: 12-2010 Posted From: 115.248.252.18 Rating: N/A |
Idi wrong ani na opinion and daani vice cersa pai kuda me 2 cents vinalani undi | ||
| Senapathy Side Hero Username: Senapathy Post Number: 4370 Registered: 01-2009 Posted From: 137.131.212.40 Rating: N/A |
Vammooo... how did I miss this thread.. My 2 cents: Love chesthey manaku bharya ni techukogalam kaani mana talli tandrulaku kodalini maatram 100% guarantee teesuka ralemu.. In the current age of nucleated family.. It is not much of an issue. I am not against arranged marriage, it has its own limitations.. Finally anthaa mana head writing meeda depend. I am struck by the lightning of love and burnt beyond repair - Florentino Ariza | ||
| Basky_indya Megastar Username: Basky_indya Post Number: 24239 Registered: 10-2007 Posted From: 76.187.247.121 Rating: N/A |
good things happening finally. if girl is financially dependent and asking for divorce, ALIMONY should be denied. kRUshITHO nAsthee dURbhikSHAM!! JP_ROCKS: ...der unte enchakka andarni giant wheel ekkistadu..girrr mani oogachu.. | ||
| Anand_n Side Hero Username: Anand_n Post Number: 9226 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 167.24.104.150 Rating: N/A |
Well said  I used 'make' deliberately - as the initial educational opportunity and encouragement needs to be given by the parents aa chal ke tujhe main leke chalu ik aise gagan ke tale jahan gam bhi na ho, aansoo bhi na ho,bas pyaar hi pyaar pale | ||
| Chivuks Hero Username: Chivuks Post Number: 10056 Registered: 07-2008 Posted From: 72.163.216.217 Rating: N/A |
i dont think i have to make my daughter financially independent ... she can make it all by herself ... Zandu balm .. Zandu balm .. kondaru fans ki Noppi kalginche balm .. | ||
| Kamal Megastar Username: Kamal Post Number: 24078 Registered: 08-2009 Posted From: 64.64.32.4 Rating: N/A |
nuvvu seffali anukunnadi naa prenses meeda esestava??  infact .. maa sambar baba rajnikanth cheppinattu .. aadadaniki adhikaaram undali .. ahamkaram kaadu .. adi naa folicy .. Kabhi woh din bhi aayega - ke jab azad hum honge Yeh apni hi zamin hogi - yeh apna asman hoga Shahidon ki chitaon par - lagenge har baras mele Watan par marne walon ka - yahi nam-o-nishan hoga .. | ||
| Jawmetri Junior Artist Username: Jawmetri Post Number: 791 Registered: 12-2009 Posted From: 59.93.83.139 Rating: N/A |
Good & Bad News this is. I hope enough Pre & Post Divorce Trauma Counselling Centers are setup in the country to face this avalanche. | ||
| Getafix Side Hero Username: Getafix Post Number: 8314 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 159.127.66.112 Rating: N/A |
India lo divorce trend kuda ladies ke benefit ayyindhi..If a man wants to divorce his wife it aint that easy.. he has to spend lot of money and take lot of stigma but for ladies ,it aint that difficult.. mana society eppudu extremes lone untadi.. paathakaalam lo magavalladi rajyam prasthtutham emo aadolladi rajyam.. oka middle gorund workout chesukokapothe this thing will explode.. I do not agree with what you have to say, but I'll defend to the death your right to say it -Voltaire. | ||
| Sagar Hero Username: Sagar Post Number: 19348 Registered: 09-2007 Posted From: 63.118.230.7 Rating: N/A |
divorce rate directly proportional to freedom of women ani kamlai frnds BD members sepparu >>> correct ga chepparu.............. | ||
| Anand_n Side Hero Username: Anand_n Post Number: 9223 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 167.24.104.150 Rating: N/A |
I actually agree with that Make your daughters financially independent so they do not have to suffer abuse and they always have a way out unlike the older generations who were raised to believe the only way to escape tyranny was to kill themselves  aa chal ke tujhe main leke chalu ik aise gagan ke tale jahan gam bhi na ho, aansoo bhi na ho,bas pyaar hi pyaar pale | ||
| Parthasaradhi Comedian Username: Parthasaradhi Post Number: 1529 Registered: 11-2009 Posted From: 198.240.130.75 Rating: N/A |
Laws of Manu: The Duties of Women 147. By a girl, by a young woman, or even by an aged one, nothing must be done independently, even in her own house. 148. In childhood a female must be subject to her father, in youth to her husband, when her lord is dead to her sons; a woman must never be independent. 149. She must not seek to separate herself from her father, husband, or sons; by leaving them she would make both her own and her husband's families contemptible. 150. She must always be cheerful, clever in the management of her household affairs, careful in cleaning her utensils, and economical in expenditure. 151. Him to whom her father may give her, or her brother with the father's permission, she shall obey as long as he lives, and when he is dead, she must not insult his memory. 152. For the sake of procuring good fortune to brides, the recitation of benedictory texts (svastyayana) and the sacrifice to the Lord of creatures (Prajapati) are used at weddings; but the betrothal by the father or guardian is the cause of the husband's dominion over his wife. 153. The husband who wedded her with sacred texts always gives happiness to his wife, both in season and out of season, in this world and in the next. 154. Though destitute of virtue, or seeking pleasure elsewhere, or devoid of good qualities, yet a husband must be constantly worshipped as a god by a faithful wife. 155. No sacrifice, no vow, no fast must be performed by women apart from their husbands; if a wife obeys her husband, she will for that reason alone be exalted in heaven. 156. A faithful wife, who desires to dwell after death with her husband, must never do anything that might displease him who took her hand, whether he be alive or dead. 157. At her pleasure let her emaciate her body by living on pure flowers, roots, and fruit; but she must never even mention the name of another man after her husband has died. 158. Until death let her be patient of hardships, self-controlled, and chaste, and strive to fulfill that most excellent duty which is prescribed for wives who have one husband only. 159-160. Many thousands of Brahmins who were chaste from their youth have gone to heaven without continuing their race. A virtuous wife who after the death of her husband constantly remains chaste reaches heaven, though she have no son, just like those chaste men. 161. But a woman who from a desire to have offspring violates her duty towards her deceased husband brings on herself disgrace in this world and loses her place with her husband in heaven. 162. Offspring begotten by another man is here not considered lawful, nor does offspring begotten on another man's wife belong to the begetter, nor is a second husband anywhere prescribed for virtuous women. 163. She who cohabits with a man of higher caste, forsaking her own husband who belongs to a lower one, will become contemptible in this world and is called a remarried woman (parapurva). 45 164. By violating her duty towards her husband, a wife is disgraced in this world, after death she enters the womb of a jackal, and is tormented by diseases as the punishment of her sin. 165-166. She who, controlling her thoughts, words, and deeds, never slights her lord resides after death with her husband in heaven and is called a virtuous wife. In reward of such conduct, a female who controls her thoughts, speech, and actions, gains in this life highest renown and in the next world a place near her husband. 167-168. A twice-born man, versed in the sacred law, shall burn a wife of equal caste who conducts herself thus and dies before him with the sacred fires used for the Agnihotra and with the sacrificial implements. Having thus, at the funeral, given the sacred fires to his wife who dies before him, he may marry again and again kindle the fires. 169. Living according to the preceding rules, he must never neglect the five great sacrifices and, having taken a wife, he must dwell in his own house during the second period of his life.  | ||
| Anand_n Side Hero Username: Anand_n Post Number: 9221 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 167.24.104.150 Rating: N/A |
Agree that having your family accept your decision and spouse and vice-versa is very important in life aa chal ke tujhe main leke chalu ik aise gagan ke tale jahan gam bhi na ho, aansoo bhi na ho,bas pyaar hi pyaar pale | ||
| Chichubuddi Junior Artist Username: Chichubuddi Post Number: 203 Registered: 12-2010 Posted From: 208.54.40.58 Rating: N/A |
Good for them. Life lo prasantam ga vundatam important. | ||
| Raman Comedian Username: Raman Post Number: 1531 Registered: 01-2009 Posted From: 159.182.1.4 Rating: |
divorce rate directly proportional to freedom of women ani kamlai frnds BD members sepparu  | ||
| Anand_n Side Hero Username: Anand_n Post Number: 9220 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 167.24.104.150 Rating: N/A |
 Maybe because we can see the pros and cons of both sides of a situation and do not feel the necessity to see everything in black or white  aa chal ke tujhe main leke chalu ik aise gagan ke tale jahan gam bhi na ho, aansoo bhi na ho,bas pyaar hi pyaar pale | ||
| Chiru_fan Hero Username: Chiru_fan Post Number: 16406 Registered: 04-2008 Posted From: 170.22.76.10 Rating: N/A |
meeru annaru ani nenu analedu....general gaa aa question adigaanu...BTW..I am not against love marriage...but, I strongly believe that the couple should be in a situation to convince their parents...coz, down the line loo kani penchina parents ki and valla nundi dooram gaa vunna aa couple ki maanasika aavedana vuntundi ani naa feeling! CHIRU - SACHIN - FEDERER | ||
| Anand_n Side Hero Username: Anand_n Post Number: 9219 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 167.24.104.150 Rating: N/A |
Problem undi ani nenu annana ? Ippativaraku general ga India lo divorce rate takkuva annadaniki the reason people gave was parental involvement in the marriage , lower expectations in the arranged marriage etc.Arranged marriages were said to have lower risk of failure. Today all those factors are not showing the same results - so the argument that arranged marriages are more successful is now losing ground...which was its USP Anduke increasing divorce rate will eat into the faith in arranged marriages annanu That does not make one better than the other Hope I made my logic clearaa chal ke tujhe main leke chalu ik aise gagan ke tale jahan gam bhi na ho, aansoo bhi na ho,bas pyaar hi pyaar pale | ||
| Anand_n Side Hero Username: Anand_n Post Number: 9218 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 167.24.104.150 Rating: N/A |
Agree No social change is abrupt.It happens gradually over time... only the next few decades will tell if my prediction is right or yours aa chal ke tujhe main leke chalu ik aise gagan ke tale jahan gam bhi na ho, aansoo bhi na ho,bas pyaar hi pyaar pale | ||
| Chivuks Hero Username: Chivuks Post Number: 10055 Registered: 07-2008 Posted From: 173.39.70.194 Rating: N/A |
ee question ... usual ga we should avoid asking females!!!! they wont put a straight forward answer ...  Zandu balm .. Zandu balm .. kondaru fans ki Noppi kalginche balm .. | ||
| Chivuks Hero Username: Chivuks Post Number: 10053 Registered: 07-2008 Posted From: 173.39.70.194 Rating: N/A |
it does not matter whether you said it or not .. arranged marriages going away because divorce rates .. is meaning less argument ... Zandu balm .. Zandu balm .. kondaru fans ki Noppi kalginche balm .. | ||
| Mega Side Hero Username: Mega Post Number: 4465 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 144.160.226.53 Rating: N/A |
Me thinks...if the above statement is valid even without the arranged word in there ..I think that is where the society is heading to "increasing divorce rate will reduce people's faith in marriages" | ||
| Chiru_fan Hero Username: Chiru_fan Post Number: 16403 Registered: 04-2008 Posted From: 170.22.76.10 Rating: N/A |
Anand gaaru..mee opinion yenti ee statement meeda? do you agree that parents should not be in the picture? meeru annattu idhivaraku antha daarunam gaa ippudu ledu kadaa? what I mean to say is now a days most parents are considering the girl's opinion as well and they are not going for forced marriages (chaala cases loo) mari alaantappudu, what's the problem in arranged marriages? CHIRU - SACHIN - FEDERER | ||
| Kamal Megastar Username: Kamal Post Number: 24075 Registered: 08-2009 Posted From: 64.64.32.4 Rating: N/A |
what I am saying is .. many youngsters are themselves giving up their freedom and going for arranged marriages .. basic ga .. ela pelli chesukunna adrustame ainappudu .. why not go for parents word ani chesukuntunnaru .. !!! and yes .. yedu taralu choodatledemo kaani .. still 2-3 tarams chustunnaru .. ! Kabhi woh din bhi aayega - ke jab azad hum honge Yeh apni hi zamin hogi - yeh apna asman hoga Shahidon ki chitaon par - lagenge har baras mele Watan par marne walon ka - yahi nam-o-nishan hoga .. | ||
| Woodpecker Side Hero Username: Woodpecker Post Number: 9049 Registered: 09-2008 Posted From: 207.61.49.243 Rating: N/A |
ee IT jobs valla desam commercilize ayyi ego diffs ekkuvva ayyay, nuvvu entha nee $$ entha etc one fine day quit | ||
| Anand_n Side Hero Username: Anand_n Post Number: 9217 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 167.24.104.150 Rating: N/A |
You are doing the same reversal Mega did Did you not see this line ?
aa chal ke tujhe main leke chalu ik aise gagan ke tale jahan gam bhi na ho, aansoo bhi na ho,bas pyaar hi pyaar pale | ||
| Chivuks Hero Username: Chivuks Post Number: 10052 Registered: 07-2008 Posted From: 173.39.70.194 Rating: |
US has the maximum divorce rates ... and there are NO arranged marriages there .. so it all boils down to BS .. when we try to generalize .. Zandu balm .. Zandu balm .. kondaru fans ki Noppi kalginche balm .. | ||
| Anand_n Side Hero Username: Anand_n Post Number: 9216 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 167.24.104.150 Rating: N/A |
That in itself is an indication that people are moving away from the traditional - edu taralu itu-atu chudali concept of arranged marriages..From the examples I am seeing parental involvement is diminishing - brides and grooms register,meet on their own,make their decision...parental involvement oka face-saving formality or for logistical needs ga migili poyindi aa chal ke tujhe main leke chalu ik aise gagan ke tale jahan gam bhi na ho, aansoo bhi na ho,bas pyaar hi pyaar pale | ||
| Anand_n Side Hero Username: Anand_n Post Number: 9215 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 167.24.104.150 Rating: N/A |
Meeru causality reverse chesaru - nenu annadi increasing divorce rate will reduce people's faith in arranged marriages... I did not say fewer arranged marriages will reduce divorce rate Anyway this is all conjecture - we will have to wait and see how it plays out aa chal ke tujhe main leke chalu ik aise gagan ke tale jahan gam bhi na ho, aansoo bhi na ho,bas pyaar hi pyaar pale | ||
| Kamal Megastar Username: Kamal Post Number: 24074 Registered: 08-2009 Posted From: 64.64.32.4 Rating: N/A |
there are no hard and fast predictions to say arranged marriages will vanish .. in my age group (around 26/27) .. many people are still going for arranged marriages looking at the way things are .. even love marriages are unpredictable .. prior generations tho polisthe irresponsible aina ee generation (atleast some % of people) .. marriage lanti responsibility .. parents nunchi teesukundaam ani anukokunda bhayapadutunnaru .. btw .. Bharat Matrimony is thriving year by year .. vaadi kotta campaign start chesadu last month .. marriages thru BM.com are more successful than any other sort of marriages ani .. he is making it appealing .. Kabhi woh din bhi aayega - ke jab azad hum honge Yeh apni hi zamin hogi - yeh apna asman hoga Shahidon ki chitaon par - lagenge har baras mele Watan par marne walon ka - yahi nam-o-nishan hoga .. | ||
| Mega Side Hero Username: Mega Post Number: 4464 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 144.160.226.53 Rating: N/A |
Possible but this death of arranged marriages has no relation to the increase in divorce rates. The high divorce rates in US is testimony to that fact. | ||
| Anand_n Side Hero Username: Anand_n Post Number: 9214 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 167.24.104.150 Rating: N/A |
Idivaraku matchmakers chese vallu ee background checks, or they would send some distant relative under cover to check if the guy actually works where he says his does etc ...So if the networking site is taking over the job , they get the responsibility of the background check too School lo volunteer cheyyatanike you have to clear the background check here aa chal ke tujhe main leke chalu ik aise gagan ke tale jahan gam bhi na ho, aansoo bhi na ho,bas pyaar hi pyaar pale | ||
| Dreamcatcher Comedian Username: Dreamcatcher Post Number: 1636 Registered: 11-2009 Posted From: 208.86.145.68 Rating: N/A |
Nijam tammi, recent ga news lo vachindi recent ga...all dating sites are implementing profile checks against registered sexual offenders list during registration.
Isn't bharatmatrimony already sort of doing this? manam arranged marriages antam kaani, all they are doing is, setting up guys with girls. | ||
| Anand_n Side Hero Username: Anand_n Post Number: 9213 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 167.24.104.150 Rating: N/A |
Daniki offense teesukovataniki emi undi Ayina I rarely take offense at discussions- thought you would know that by now My point is people and social expectations are changing progressively - every generation thinks mana rojullo bagundedi next generation padu ayipotunnaru ani aa chal ke tujhe main leke chalu ik aise gagan ke tale jahan gam bhi na ho, aansoo bhi na ho,bas pyaar hi pyaar pale | ||
| Chivuks Hero Username: Chivuks Post Number: 10051 Registered: 07-2008 Posted From: 173.39.70.194 Rating: N/A |
my great grand father fell in love with a cook, lived-in with her ... and will'ed a portion of his property to her ... now that property itself costs 10 times more than the small pieces that we inherited through him ... Just FYI only ... do not take offense Zandu balm .. Zandu balm .. kondaru fans ki Noppi kalginche balm .. | ||
| Dreamcatcher Comedian Username: Dreamcatcher Post Number: 1635 Registered: 11-2009 Posted From: 208.86.145.68 Rating: N/A |
Not about whether they can make the right decision or not, it about making the decision and taking responsibility for making that decision. 21 years ki kaakapothe 25 years ki chesukutaaru. Making the decision and bearing the consequences is the key here, obviously mature people would know what they are doing. 15 years down the line if they regret, seperate/divorce and move on. Ante ippudu, arranged marriages lo regrets undavu antaara? | ||
| Humpty_dumpty Moderator Username: Humpty_dumpty Post Number: 13658 Registered: 02-2009 Rating: N/A |
just because it is legal age, 21 is not correct age mentally to get married anukuntunna...arranged or love 15 yrs taruvaatha parents decision can be regretted as well as personal ones too | ||
| Chivuks Hero Username: Chivuks Post Number: 10050 Registered: 07-2008 Posted From: 173.39.70.194 Rating: N/A |
 nee dumpa tega ... nee example picha highlight po ... Zandu balm .. Zandu balm .. kondaru fans ki Noppi kalginche balm .. | ||
| Anand_n Side Hero Username: Anand_n Post Number: 9212 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 167.24.104.150 Rating: N/A |
Let me ask you something My parents got married without even seeing each other ...mana generation lo evaru undaru alaga ...does that mean we think we are better judges than our parents ? Its progressive increase in the control people want of their own lives - manaki mana parents kanna ekkuva, mana pillalaki manakanna ekkuva aa chal ke tujhe main leke chalu ik aise gagan ke tale jahan gam bhi na ho, aansoo bhi na ho,bas pyaar hi pyaar pale | ||
| Chivuks Hero Username: Chivuks Post Number: 10049 Registered: 07-2008 Posted From: 173.39.70.194 Rating: N/A |
perfect .. meeru pandaga seskondi ... Zandu balm .. Zandu balm .. kondaru fans ki Noppi kalginche balm .. | ||
| Truelies Side Hero Username: Truelies Post Number: 6972 Registered: 03-2008 Posted From: 170.35.208.22 Rating: N/A |
On a side note: oka avida match.com ni sue chesindi. enduku ante, avida match.com chusi okanni select chesukonte, vadu deenni rapex chesi poyadu anta, plus vadiki konchem sexualx offender record undi anta... so court ruling enti ante: match.com should check the sexualx offenders database and reject those profiles.  www.prajarajyam.org - The account has been suspended. | ||
| Chiru_fan Hero Username: Chiru_fan Post Number: 16398 Registered: 04-2008 Posted From: 170.22.76.10 Rating: N/A |
they might then think that their parents are not that bad as they thought CHIRU - SACHIN - FEDERER | ||
| Rajusk Hero Username: Rajusk Post Number: 12589 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 192.234.99.1 Rating: N/A |
so you are thinking..a 21 yr old can make better judgement for herself/himself about their life partner.. what if they regret after 15 years.. | ||
| Anand_n Side Hero Username: Anand_n Post Number: 9211 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 167.24.104.150 Rating: N/A |
Here's my predictions Social media will take over the job of connecting people - and Bharat matrimony, if it has to survive will turn into a social networking site for the individuals - not for arranged marriagesaa chal ke tujhe main leke chalu ik aise gagan ke tale jahan gam bhi na ho, aansoo bhi na ho,bas pyaar hi pyaar pale | ||
| Chivuks Hero Username: Chivuks Post Number: 10047 Registered: 07-2008 Posted From: 173.39.70.194 Rating: N/A |
http://www.thoughtsofanordinaryman.com/2008/03/who-is-real-v ictim.html sare ... sadukondi ... you can do google search on the names involved and can get more info .... but veelayinantha varaku .. names mention seyakunda disc'andi Zandu balm .. Zandu balm .. kondaru fans ki Noppi kalginche balm .. | ||
| Chivuks Hero Username: Chivuks Post Number: 10046 Registered: 07-2008 Posted From: 173.39.70.194 Rating: N/A |
what joke ... bharatmatrimony vadu vinte .. padi padi navvuthadu .. Zandu balm .. Zandu balm .. kondaru fans ki Noppi kalginche balm .. | ||
| Dreamcatcher Comedian Username: Dreamcatcher Post Number: 1634 Registered: 11-2009 Posted From: 208.86.145.68 Rating: N/A |
Right on the money, this will make parents lot more apprehensive about arranged marriages also, which is a very good thing anukuntunna. | ||
| Katthi Side Hero Username: Katthi Post Number: 4482 Registered: 07-2010 Posted From: 12.157.82.212 Rating: N/A |
Anduke cheppa.. psycho gallaki .. champadam .. adadanni harass cheyyadam.. manhandling cheyyadam.. kottadam anevi ..chala like chestaru.. oka manishi mida cheyyi ettadam.. life tiyyadam anevi kshanikavesham lo jaragavu saami.. unless he prepared or planed before. Papi gadu post este katthi la digali | ||
| Truelies Side Hero Username: Truelies Post Number: 6971 Registered: 03-2008 Posted From: 170.35.208.22 Rating: N/A |
exact ga ide type chesi malli manaku endukule ani lite post chesa... www.prajarajyam.org - The account has been suspended. | ||
| Anand_n Side Hero Username: Anand_n Post Number: 9210 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 167.24.104.150 Rating: N/A |
Absolutely - tolerance in a bad relationship was only induced by fear and helplessness - that there was no way out or that the consequences of divorce will be worse - from the financial and social fronts. Ippudu a rendu constraints levu - so the need for tolerance has gone down... Its s good change for the many people stuck in bad marriages - pressure ekkuva ayyi fatal turn teesukune mundu separate avvatam better.. On the flip side increades social acceptance also causes increase in divorce for short term problems that could possibly be worked thru - but then again , evari priorities vallavi - and nobody know what happens inside the four walls - we only hear partial stories.. Like it or not - the social fabric is changing And I think this will spell the death knell for arranged marriages too.aa chal ke tujhe main leke chalu ik aise gagan ke tale jahan gam bhi na ho, aansoo bhi na ho,bas pyaar hi pyaar pale | ||
| Dreamcatcher Comedian Username: Dreamcatcher Post Number: 1633 Registered: 11-2009 Posted From: 208.86.145.68 Rating: N/A |
Evvaru support chesaaru saami, emi maatladu tunnavu? Just cause chebutunna, anta control chesukogalige vaade aithe, Chivuks cheppinattu divorce teesukoneyvaadu. Evvadu etta react avutaaro manam etta sebutaam? | ||
| Katthi Side Hero Username: Katthi Post Number: 4480 Registered: 07-2010 Posted From: 12.157.82.212 Rating: |
Kshanikavesham vacchina champpadam anedi ni senses anni project chestene avutundi.. chala planed ga avuthene champa galaru.. mana india lo.. basic ga.. wife ante.. kottocchu.. tannocchu.. mental ga harass cheyyocchu ane vati mida granted ga untaru.. kani it should not be like that.. .... noti tho kanidi cheyyitho kadu ani na abhiprayam.. kshanika avesham lo champadam enti basu.. antha calculated ga unde manishi?.. kshanikavesham ani vanni support chestava? Papi gadu post este katthi la digali | ||
| Humpty_dumpty Moderator Username: Humpty_dumpty Post Number: 13653 Registered: 02-2009 Rating: N/A |
bunty the new hyder...alaa coffee sip sethuuu thread nadipisthunaadu :P | ||
| Katthi Side Hero Username: Katthi Post Number: 4478 Registered: 07-2010 Posted From: 12.157.82.212 Rating: N/A |
Alakadu... what things would make a guy to kill a girl? ammai cheddadi or affair undi ani telisina .. champe antha reason enti? If he does not like his wife , he can go for divorce.. aaa story lo champadam nijam ayithe .. poragadu litrall ga psycho ayyi untadu.. ee kalam lo penli mundu affairs ki kuda serious ga tisukovada.. champe daka elladam anedi goram.. Papi gadu post este katthi la digali | ||
| Chivuks Hero Username: Chivuks Post Number: 10045 Registered: 07-2008 Posted From: 173.39.70.194 Rating: N/A |
nenemi protect seyatledu saami ... CCDB anni search engines lo vassadi .. enduku anavasaram ga ani ... Zandu balm .. Zandu balm .. kondaru fans ki Noppi kalginche balm .. | ||
| Dreamcatcher Comedian Username: Dreamcatcher Post Number: 1632 Registered: 11-2009 Posted From: 208.86.145.68 Rating: N/A |
Paapi, it is called 'kshanikaavesam'. Moment takes control of you, if you can control yourself for that one moment, things will be different. Some are good at controlling themselves, some cannot and pay the price later. | ||
| Bunty717 Moderator Username: Bunty717 Post Number: 15707 Registered: 02-2008 Rating: N/A |
OT's own dialog: Pativrate kaani, gokite vastundi | ||
| Bunty717 Moderator Username: Bunty717 Post Number: 15706 Registered: 02-2008 Rating: N/A |
anni channels lo vochina news ni nuvvu enduku protect chestunnavu.. typing cheyadam badakam ante ok..i can understand adi kadu ante.. ikkada pettu news eti avadu.. OT's own dialog: Pativrate kaani, gokite vastundi | ||
| Film_fan Hero Username: Film_fan Post Number: 16868 Registered: 03-2008 Posted From: 81.138.131.153 Rating: N/A |
Chivuks babai.. alanti vallalo kontha mandi psycho gallu untaru.. --- Pshyco gallu ekkdaina untaru paapi.... rendu lines sadivi.....pyscho antey ela? We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit. -- Aristotle | ||
| Chivuks Hero Username: Chivuks Post Number: 10044 Registered: 07-2008 Posted From: 173.39.70.194 Rating: N/A |
nee agenda needhi kada ... vaadu chala manchodu saame ... highly educated ... very methodic ... details ettalenu ... Zandu balm .. Zandu balm .. kondaru fans ki Noppi kalginche balm .. | ||
| Getafix Side Hero Username: Getafix Post Number: 8312 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 159.127.66.112 Rating: N/A |
divorce rates increase avvadaniki financial freedom definiteloy a major reason but there is also another reason - parents support. Nenu personally 2 cases chusaa.. one case girl just like that, didnt want to stay in marriage and she was married to a close relative.. parents chusttarikam ni odulukuni ammayini support jesaru.. in olden days this was unimaginable. Another case ayithe extreme - edo argument osthe , girl's dad aavesham lo kuthuri tarafuna divorce file jesadu proactive ga.. ofcourse girl was not interested either in staying in marriage though. I do not agree with what you have to say, but I'll defend to the death your right to say it -Voltaire. | ||
| Katthi Side Hero Username: Katthi Post Number: 4477 Registered: 07-2010 Posted From: 12.157.82.212 Rating: N/A |
Chivuks babai.. alanti vallalo kontha mandi psycho gallu untaru.. Papi gadu post este katthi la digali | ||
| Truelies Side Hero Username: Truelies Post Number: 6970 Registered: 03-2008 Posted From: 170.35.208.22 Rating: N/A |
voddule...lite... www.prajarajyam.org - The account has been suspended. | ||
| Bunty717 Moderator Username: Bunty717 Post Number: 15704 Registered: 02-2008 Rating: N/A |
yes 2004 time lo jarigindi idi.. too bad idi.. OT's own dialog: Pativrate kaani, gokite vastundi | ||
| Chivuks Hero Username: Chivuks Post Number: 10043 Registered: 07-2008 Posted From: 173.39.70.194 Rating: N/A |
konchem alanti story ne ... kapothe ... penli ki mundu unna affair mathram kadu .. memu apartment ki move aina kottallo ... couples eppudu valla apt work chudataniki vachina .. maa apt ki vachi velle vallu ... so aa interaction tho seppa galanu .. they used to talk a lot about future plans etc., Zandu balm .. Zandu balm .. kondaru fans ki Noppi kalginche balm .. | ||
| Dreamcatcher Comedian Username: Dreamcatcher Post Number: 1631 Registered: 11-2009 Posted From: 208.86.145.68 Rating: N/A |
absolutely dude. even a teeny tiny bit indication of physical abuse in relationship, divorce is absolutely necessary. Too bad man, ikkada VA lo kooda intakanna daarunamaina case jarigindi kada, guy killed his wife, and packed her body in suitcase and dumped in a trash can. That guy is in jail now. Divorce is a must in these kinds of cases. Move on with your own life and let others live their own lives. | ||
| Chivuks Hero Username: Chivuks Post Number: 10042 Registered: 07-2008 Posted From: 173.39.70.194 Rating: N/A |
real life incidents ki .. ikkada adigedi info .. kavalante email ettu ... news site links amputha ... Zandu balm .. Zandu balm .. kondaru fans ki Noppi kalginche balm .. | ||
| Zulu Side Hero Username: Zulu Post Number: 5750 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 64.253.166.252 Rating: N/A |
enduku mama..ne post sarigga artham kala..aa ammayi ki vere affair unda? Enga Thala Dhoni ki periya visil adigu. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gExoAZDWy5I | ||
| Truelies Side Hero Username: Truelies Post Number: 6969 Registered: 03-2008 Posted From: 170.35.208.22 Rating: N/A |
vammo..nijama..?? eppudu jarigindi idi? www.prajarajyam.org - The account has been suspended. | ||
| Chivuks Hero Username: Chivuks Post Number: 10040 Registered: 07-2008 Posted From: 173.39.70.194 Rating: N/A |
hrudaya vidarakam aina story etante .. naa apt complex lo ... naa pakka apt vadidhi ... ultra smart untadu kurrod ... pinla just teenmaar lo trisha type maintain sestundi ... 2 full new gen couple ki perfect example ... vadu entha committed ante .. builder tho discussion ki kuda laptop attukochi .. minutes ampe vadu ... chinna nail kuda sontham ga elli koni .. wood work deggarundi sepinchadu apt ki ... oko wood item, like shelf, cup board etc., oka contractor tho sepinchadu .. just for that quality sake ... alantidhi .. oka roju ... all news channels lo .. vadidhi, vadi wife dhi photos vachayi .. entra ante .. wife ni killing sesi .. suicide ... inka apt khali gane undhi ... deenikanna .. divorce better kada ... Zandu balm .. Zandu balm .. kondaru fans ki Noppi kalginche balm .. | ||
| Dreamcatcher Comedian Username: Dreamcatcher Post Number: 1630 Registered: 11-2009 Posted From: 208.86.145.68 Rating: N/A |
true man, papam kurrodi life tho aadukunnaru. Ilanti case naaku ex collegue tammudiki jarigindi. They are from bombay but brought up in dubai, kurrodu appude US vachaadu kurrodu. Maharastrian ammayi tho pelli sesaaru, vachi three months key pilla 'I want divorce' ani elli poyindi. Kurrodu depression loki elli poyadu, and left US and went back to Dubai. | ||
| Risingstar Megastar Username: Risingstar Post Number: 22139 Registered: 08-2008 Posted From: 68.87.42.115 Rating: N/A |
kaneesam aa pani aundha ledha? Guriginja Posted on Friday, April 08, 2011 - 01:28 pm: naaku telisi prajala/ state notlo matti kotti YSR/Jagan okka rupayi kuda sampayinchaledhu.. | ||
| Side Hero Username: Twitter Post Number: 8473 Registered: 10-2009 Posted From: 151.191.175.207 Rating: N/A |
Okappudu divorce ante chaala serious matters ki theesukune vaallu like illegal connections , drunkard/beating husband etc. ippudu divorce theesukotaniki okallaki nacchina battalu inkollu esuko pothe chaalu. Family lawyers ki kooda business type aipoindhi idhi..they are encouraging as oppose to use to discourage in earlier days. | ||
| Bunty717 Moderator Username: Bunty717 Post Number: 15699 Registered: 02-2008 Rating: N/A |
force cheseru emo.. kani girl father naku eti teliyadu ani swatimutyam acting chesedu taa.. ee kurrod life ki bokka adindi .. ee tingari girl valla OT's own dialog: Pativrate kaani, gokite vastundi | ||
| Truelies Side Hero Username: Truelies Post Number: 6968 Registered: 03-2008 Posted From: 170.35.208.20 Rating: N/A |
yes definite ga janam thinking/attitude lo change vachindi. obvious ga divorce rate pergindi and at the same time, they are not hesitating second marriage. monna evaro chepparu ikkada...oka ammayi divorce file cheyyagane vere vallu match set chesukonnaru anta... www.prajarajyam.org - The account has been suspended. | ||
| Katthi Side Hero Username: Katthi Post Number: 4475 Registered: 07-2010 Posted From: 12.157.82.212 Rating: N/A |
there are two things.. Divorce anedi based on real reasons ayithe ok kani.. fashion ko poyi.. andaru chestunnaru ani.. prathi misunderstand ki divorce gurthuku vaste.. eee rate hardly 5 years lo 3 times 4 times avutundi Papi gadu post este katthi la digali | ||
| Dreamcatcher Comedian Username: Dreamcatcher Post Number: 1628 Registered: 11-2009 Posted From: 208.86.145.68 Rating: N/A |
Mari aa colleague tho ney pelli seskovachu kada? Chass, youth lo 'jeevitam lo emi kaavali, deniki priority ivvaali" anna daani meeda clarity missing anukuntunna, I think that is one of the major reasons for the divorce rate increase. | ||
| Bushu Side Hero Username: Bushu Post Number: 2225 Registered: 04-2009 Posted From: 12.30.230.138 Rating: N/A |
good for them. kids lekuntey bindhaass. you gotta lead a life that makes you happy. | ||
| Rajusk Hero Username: Rajusk Post Number: 12587 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 192.234.99.1 Rating: N/A |
TRS leader Nayani Narasimha Reddy koduku pelli same reason valla cancel ayyindi..not sure if he got married later..he was my friend's neighbor in PR Nagar in Hyd | ||
| Bunty717 Moderator Username: Bunty717 Post Number: 15697 Registered: 02-2008 Rating: N/A |
inta extreme cases ki divorce ante ok mama..oka 15 yrs back ki ippatiki eti anta diff vochindi janam thinking/attitude lo enduku inta % perigindi.. 15 yrs back janma manchivallu ippudu bad aa.. OT's own dialog: Pativrate kaani, gokite vastundi | ||
| Bunty717 Moderator Username: Bunty717 Post Number: 15696 Registered: 02-2008 Rating: N/A |
yes..vizag lo jarigindi..taravatha telisindi .. aa ammayi ki chennai lo colleague tho love ata.. kurrod US lone untaad OT's own dialog: Pativrate kaani, gokite vastundi | ||
| Truelies Side Hero Username: Truelies Post Number: 6967 Registered: 03-2008 Posted From: 170.35.208.20 Rating: N/A |
chala ekkuva antara? www.prajarajyam.org - The account has been suspended. | ||
| Truelies Side Hero Username: Truelies Post Number: 6966 Registered: 03-2008 Posted From: 170.35.208.20 Rating: N/A |
prathi roju thittukontu, kottukontoo, anumanam, avamanam tho jeevithantham bathike kante...ide better kada.... www.prajarajyam.org - The account has been suspended. | ||
| Risingstar Megastar Username: Risingstar Post Number: 22136 Registered: 08-2008 Posted From: 68.87.42.115 Rating: N/A |
2 days kee vishayam ledhu ani thelusthunda? Guriginja Posted on Friday, April 08, 2011 - 01:28 pm: naaku telisi prajala/ state notlo matti kotti YSR/Jagan okka rupayi kuda sampayinchaledhu.. | ||
| Risingstar Megastar Username: Risingstar Post Number: 22135 Registered: 08-2008 Posted From: 68.87.42.115 Rating: N/A |
endhi bunty nijama? Guriginja Posted on Friday, April 08, 2011 - 01:28 pm: naaku telisi prajala/ state notlo matti kotti YSR/Jagan okka rupayi kuda sampayinchaledhu.. | ||
| Truelies Side Hero Username: Truelies Post Number: 6965 Registered: 03-2008 Posted From: 170.35.208.20 Rating: N/A |
suppose groom ko vishayam ledu ani 2nd day telisi divorce theesukonte adi kooda fashion atara..?? i don't think anybody wants to go for divorce for the sake of fashion....  www.prajarajyam.org - The account has been suspended. | ||
| Dreamcatcher Comedian Username: Dreamcatcher Post Number: 1627 Registered: 11-2009 Posted From: 208.86.145.68 Rating: N/A |
I agree with you to some extent, but if kids are involved, then I would say think it through. | ||
| Chivuks Hero Username: Chivuks Post Number: 10039 Registered: 07-2008 Posted From: 173.39.70.194 Rating: |
and i believe it is a good trend also ... arranged marriages or love marriages .. nothing is perfect ... freedom sana mukyam .. both for ladies and gents ... patha sintha kai pachadi naakali ante .. pizza/burgers days lo .. evadu oppukodu .. very natural Zandu balm .. Zandu balm .. kondaru fans ki Noppi kalginche balm .. | ||
| Bunty717 Moderator Username: Bunty717 Post Number: 15693 Registered: 02-2008 Rating: N/A |
ippudu divorce oka fashion ayipoindi.. marriage ayina 2nd day literally 2nd day divoce ki file chesina case telusu..ippudu evariki society ante bhayam ledu.. naa life naa istam annatu unnaru.. so evaru compromise avadam ledu.. parents kuda protective ayipoyeru.. valla son/daughter divorce istanu ante ichey antunnaru.. OT's own dialog: Pativrate kaani, gokite vastundi | ||
| Dreamcatcher Comedian Username: Dreamcatcher Post Number: 1626 Registered: 11-2009 Posted From: 208.86.145.68 Rating: N/A |
This is expected. With all the freedoms we are enjoying, this was the obvious result. | ||
| Katthi Side Hero Username: Katthi Post Number: 4471 Registered: 07-2010 Posted From: 12.157.82.212 Rating: N/A |
yes you are correct.. telisina case lo ..dowry gurinchi penli taruvatha adigithe .. chepputho kotti ellipoyi case eshi..tata volchindi oo mahila.. Papi gadu post este katthi la digali | ||
| Rajusk Hero Username: Rajusk Post Number: 12586 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 192.234.99.1 Rating: N/A |
ee year Hyderabad lone 10% anta divorce rate.. | ||
| Parthasaradhi Comedian Username: Parthasaradhi Post Number: 1528 Registered: 11-2009 Posted From: 198.240.130.75 Rating: N/A |
next 10 years lo too much avuddi. 20 years lo west tho compare chesukovachu. | ||
| Kamal Megastar Username: Kamal Post Number: 24070 Registered: 08-2009 Posted From: 64.64.32.4 Rating: N/A |
Indians ante .. NRIs kuda vastaar le annai .. pesal ga seppala endi .. Kabhi woh din bhi aayega - ke jab azad hum honge Yeh apni hi zamin hogi - yeh apna asman hoga Shahidon ki chitaon par - lagenge har baras mele Watan par marne walon ka - yahi nam-o-nishan hoga .. | ||
| Chivuks Hero Username: Chivuks Post Number: 10038 Registered: 07-2008 Posted From: 173.39.70.194 Rating: |
emundiley saami .. freedom of expression india lo kuda vassindi ... okappudu sachinattu barinchamani society seppedi .. ippudu society ante ne piski vadultunnaru ... NRIs lo mathram leda ee trend .. US lo unna naa friends sana mandi .. 2nd marriage seskunnar ... Zandu balm .. Zandu balm .. kondaru fans ki Noppi kalginche balm .. | ||
| Kamal Megastar Username: Kamal Post Number: 24066 Registered: 08-2009 Posted From: 64.64.32.4 Rating: N/A |
subham ..
south lo kuda .. bagane ekkuva .. maa family lo .. nenu last 5 years lo atleast 3 divorces chusa .. and all the girls are from my family (ante koddiga distant family le) .. Kabhi woh din bhi aayega - ke jab azad hum honge Yeh apni hi zamin hogi - yeh apna asman hoga Shahidon ki chitaon par - lagenge har baras mele Watan par marne walon ka - yahi nam-o-nishan hoga .. | ||
| Film_fan Hero Username: Film_fan Post Number: 16861 Registered: 03-2008 Posted From: 81.138.131.153 Rating: |
India is going advanced countries way subha soochakamo kaado telvatledu just potta kosam ane rojulu poyayi there is lot more money lot more things to enjoy ilantivi tappavu --- EK bhai....80's lo Rotu kapada makaan.....ivi untey chaalu aney slogan tho movies vacchevi....life kooda alagey undedhi... roti petti....kapada kappi.....makaan lo unchey vaadu dorikithey...chaalu.....janama danyam anukuney janaalu....... ippudu kadupu nindindhi.....batta ekkuvayyindhi......Makkaan....okati chalatledhu...... so.....MAARPU.......vachcindhi..... India pragathi padham lo chocchuku pothundhi.....ivanni pattinchu kokandi..... CWG pettama? jyothi veliginchaama? adhey mana measure.... We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit. -- Aristotle | ||
| Emc2 Side Hero Username: Emc2 Post Number: 2551 Registered: 03-2008 Posted From: 199.107.16.132 Rating: N/A |
nothing new about it... cherapakura chedevu. | ||
| Eluri_kurradu Hero Username: Eluri_kurradu Post Number: 12777 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 173.16.22.169 Rating: N/A |
India is going advanced countries way subha soochakamo kaado telvatledu just potta kosam ane rojulu poyayi there is lot more money lot more things to enjoy ilantivi tappavu I'm not a kurradu | ||
| Film_fan Hero Username: Film_fan Post Number: 16857 Registered: 03-2008 Posted From: 81.138.131.153 Rating: N/A |
bump for Kamal...... divorce rates are high ani vinna ok....but....is it that alarming? not easy to stop anyways..... We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit. -- Aristotle | ||
| Cyberabadsinnodu Comedian Username: Cyberabadsinnodu Post Number: 1214 Registered: 02-2010 Posted From: 68.206.116.251 Rating: N/A |
u r frm delhi?intersting to see in ccdb..Guess you r telugu ఎంత చికాగో యునివర్సిటీ లో చదువుకున్నా చిలక్కొట్టుడికి సరైన ఇంగ్లీషు పదం దొరుకుతుందా..!! | ||
| Cosmopolitan Junior Artist Username: Cosmopolitan Post Number: 264 Registered: 04-2008 Posted From: 69.175.79.169 Rating: N/A |
don't know abt south India...but I've heard lots of divorce cases in my home town of Delhi alone. | ||
| Cosmopolitan Junior Artist Username: Cosmopolitan Post Number: 263 Registered: 04-2008 Posted From: 69.175.79.169 Rating: |
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/04/12/india-divorce-rate- rise_n_848201.html NEW DELHI -- In a crowded courtroom on the city's outskirts, the once unthinkable is reality: dozens of couples – rich and poor, educated and barely literate – seek divorce for reasons as varied as domestic violence to a simple inability to live together. Just a decade ago, divorce was a dirty word in socially conservative India. The fear of social isolation, a sense of duty to extended families – who likely arranged the marriage in the first place – and financial dependence put nearly unbearable pressure on couples to stay together. But as the economy has boomed, the rigid boundaries governing traditional Indian life are beginning to fall, especially among the growing urban middle class. Dating among twentysomethings is growing popular, love matches (as opposed to arranged marriages) don't provoke the family scandals they once did and divorce is no longer out of bounds. "All of a sudden it seems everyone I know is getting divorced," says 28-year-old Mohit Dutt, who last year filed for divorce from his wife of six years after "exhausting every possible way to save the marriage." "I know at least a dozen people around me who are either there or getting there," Dutt said. The country maintains no statistics on divorce, and the numbers are not staggering by Western standards – anecdotal reports say one in every 100 Indian marriages is now likely to end in divorce, compared to about half in the United States. But the low rate is largely because most Indians still live in villages, where divorce remains a taboo that can destroy a family's reputation and leave a woman an outcast for the rest of her life. "It's still an urban phenomenon," says divorce lawyer Hasan Anzar, "but a really fast growing one." In the 1980s, New Delhi had two courts that dealt with divorce. Today there are 16. A new Indian matchmaking website Secondshaadi.com, or second marriage, now targets divorcees and widowers. A search on it throws up thousands of divorcees, most in the 25-to-35 age bracket. Still, family courts here remain geared toward persuading couples to work it out. A watercolor of a happy family hangs behind the chair of Judge Deepa Sharma, who urges nearly every couple to visit the court's in-house marriage counselor. "Our main thrust is to unite parties," she says. "We try to explain to them what the consequences of divorce are." A woman in her early 20s says she wants out of her barely year-old marriage because her husband refused to move out of his parents' home, where she was treated badly. She comes from a modest background – her father a poorly paid government clerk – and she has only a high school education, but she is definite about one thing: She wants her freedom. "I can only start my life again if he lets me go," she says, as the judge unsuccessfully tries to persuade her to give her marriage another try. A well-to-do couple in their mid-40s is asking for divorce because they have "differences of opinion" they just can't work out. They say their teenage daughter understands their desire to split. Under court rules, the petitioners cannot be identified. A generation ago, women had little choice but to stay in bad marriages. Most would not have received any support from relatives. "Women, especially now, have little tolerance for bad marriages, for parental interference in their marriage. They have more economic independence," says Iti Kanungo, a court-appointed marriage counselor. This doesn't mean the decision to divorce is an easy one. Indians spend enormous amounts of money on marriages, most of which are still arranged between families. Finding the right home for a son or daughter is a matter of great family prestige. Ending a marriage is often not just about a couple going their separate ways but of two families, sometimes with business or political ties, disentangling themselves. The shame of a divorced son or daughter also makes it harder for parents to find suitable matches for other children. But that is changing too. "There still isn't complete acceptance of divorce but increasingly families feel that there isn't enough dishonor if your daughter is being mistreated," says Geeta Luthra, a senior divorce lawyer in the Indian capital. Perhaps in response to such social churn, the federal government is considering a law that allows couples to end their marriage citing "irretrievable breakdown." While it's not clear when or if Parliament will pass the legislation, it's a definite breakaway from the current, more stringent, divorce laws, guided by religious family law. Hindus, who form nearly 80 percent of the country's population, can seek divorce for adultery, insanity, abuse, impotence, desertion or the uniquely Indian grounds that their spouse is a leper or "renounced the world" to enter a religious order. A divorce by mutual consent requires a cooling-off period of six months. Dutt says ending his marriage brought him both sadness and relief. "I still don't think divorce should the easiest thing," he says, "but at the same time I'm glad it's not a taboo anymore." |
