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     Pplsuck Junior Artist Username: Pplsuck Post Number: 562 Registered: 07-2008 Posted From: 99.234.115.56 Rating: N/A |
How did I miss this? Platy, Howz u buddy? Like always, I keep changing and my opinions change too.....there are far too many learned ppl around here who humbled me big time....... Anand, Did you mean to say "I have a feeling you catch more than you (were)let on"? Bcoz the meaning might change big time otherwise......and I dunno what it means without "were" | ||
| Jalsa Side Hero Username: Jalsa Post Number: 5127 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 69.115.29.189 Rating: N/A |
Hello Platypus, h r u? | ||
| Platypus Junior Artist Username: Platypus Post Number: 134 Registered: 01-2008 Posted From: 122.169.136.49 Rating: N/A |
Really? You had a different view about yourself when you were on idlebrain! There are 10 types of people in this world. Those who understand binary and those who don't. | ||
| Anand_n Side Hero Username: Anand_n Post Number: 4674 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 32.169.195.199 Rating: N/A |
Pplsuck, LOL not sophisticated or learned ...  I have a feeling you catch more than you let on  aa chal ke tujhe main leke chalu ik aise gagan ke tale jahan gam bhi na ho, aansoo bhi na ho,bas pyaar hi pyaar pale | ||
| Pplsuck Junior Artist Username: Pplsuck Post Number: 549 Registered: 07-2008 Posted From: 99.234.115.56 Rating: N/A |
MS, oorikey ninnu senti feel cheddaam ani cheppaa....I don't think I ever made any personal posts against anyone........and I never understood your personal posts logic too..........it was way tooo complicated for my understanding.....probably fourth of fifth derivative logic tho ardham avutundemo....I ain't that sophisticated or learned.... | ||
| Anand_n Side Hero Username: Anand_n Post Number: 4669 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 68.206.110.236 Rating: N/A |
I don't know about life beginning at 40 - did not see a sea change in my own thinking at that milestone... It is a more slow evolution of the thought processes..as we go thru successes and failures in life ..and the maturity that comes with these But I guess 40 is kind of that midway point up the Mt.Everest of life and compels people to think whether are they moving in the right direction Availability of cash is really not a driving factor to enjoy life...I think it is because a lot of the artificial contraints fall away as self-confidence increases with age and the sense of the ticking biological clock gives a sense of urgency to living your dreams aa chal ke tujhe main leke chalu ik aise gagan ke tale jahan gam bhi na ho, aansoo bhi na ho,bas pyaar hi pyaar pale | ||
| Sandipus12 Junior Artist Username: Sandipus12 Post Number: 62 Registered: 03-2009 Posted From: 82.2.125.177 Rating: N/A |
Life begins at forty antaru, I think at this time we start analyzing more maturely and let go of futile pursuits and start enjoying life.Also we will have spare cash at disposal. Is that correct? | ||
| Anand_n Side Hero Username: Anand_n Post Number: 4667 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 68.206.110.236 Rating: N/A |
Mallik, Meeru nenu cheppindi okkate - the only thing I was pointing out was that when we realize that a decision did not work the way we expected it to, instead of getting emotionally attached to the decision we have to give ourself the flexibility to change that course .too many people spe d their lives bending over backwards to prove that they were right in the first place instead of adapting One of my favorite prayers is the serenity prayer.. God give me The strength to change what I can The serenity to accept what I can't And the wisdom to know the difference Ishan, Doing well,thank you aa chal ke tujhe main leke chalu ik aise gagan ke tale jahan gam bhi na ho, aansoo bhi na ho,bas pyaar hi pyaar pale | ||
| Mallik Side Hero Username: Mallik Post Number: 6323 Registered: 10-2008 Posted From: 162.116.29.69 Rating: N/A |
If I knew decision A was better than decision B, I would had taken A instead of regretting by taking B. "Regret" doesnt mean I am attached to the decision every minute.. I do however, so that I remove that burden and move on.. definitely some decisions haunt me forever.. no escape.. as me not that ideal.. In this db, there's always someone watching you!!  | ||
| Ishan Junior Artist Username: Ishan Post Number: 67 Registered: 01-2009 Posted From: 68.89.189.55 Rating: N/A |
Anand, how are you? great post there. Vicious circle, yes...that's how villains are made...inability to break out of that loop. | ||
| Ishan Junior Artist Username: Ishan Post Number: 66 Registered: 01-2009 Posted From: 68.89.189.55 Rating: N/A |
Vengeance is a very powerful motivation, especially if that is combined with ego. Any decisions made during such mental condition will be devastating for him/herself ultimately. No body should take decisions when he/she is under stress. | ||
| Ishan Junior Artist Username: Ishan Post Number: 65 Registered: 01-2009 Posted From: 68.89.189.55 Rating: N/A |
In most circumstances the reasons would revolve around one's ego. To prove yourself and others that you are better than the rest is probably the most common reason for making unorthodox decisions. However, in some genuine cases, people believe that they are very special, true that may be, and take up a path that suits their nature. Of course these are very generic reasons. | ||
| Heteroclite Junior Artist Username: Heteroclite Post Number: 250 Registered: 04-2009 Posted From: 219.64.128.75 Rating: N/A |
Ms annai i refer who moved my chees . to get something for this. why we go into maze , which is risky when we already have chees in hand. and the 3rd charecter, i dont remember the name , who hesitates in the begining and then slowly starts exploring maze. he wont be confident in the begining , but as he goes , his confidence increses. its like analizing where we are and what we lost from our decission in every step. some turn back when they feel they lost so much and feel there is no more hope. some continue seeing some hope or they cannot just agree and settle with what they lost. if 100 people decide to climbing mount everest , 99 will drop at various levels, analyzing . only one will be at top. the person who drop in between is not a loser . he might have started something bigger or smaller and got succeded. i dont know , did i miss something. | ||
| Anand_n Side Hero Username: Anand_n Post Number: 4666 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 68.206.110.236 Rating: |
I read the initial post and responded yesterday - was too busy to read the entire thread...
But remember society can only acheive through those close to you, friends and family - if you have their convition you will be fine, if they buckle under pressure from society , you will be impacted....
Though this is instinctive fight or flight reaction, it can deteriorate into something more destructive, something to be careful about and be aware of ...it usually is caused by transference of anger/frustration caused by damage to the self-esteem...it is when we have to redeem ourselves in our own eyes that we try to prove points at the cost of others...and it is a vicious cycle... cos later when it hits you why you did it , it erodes the self-esteem further...
Climbing mount everest is totally in their control so they can succeed, it is the difference between excelling at a solo sport and a team sport - life is a team sport , you need more skills than just your ability to play well
Very well said
Very true only when we learn to separate the decision from self that we can view it objectively
Deenikanna better suggestion istanu - give yourself the permission to change your decisions ... aa roju aa paristhitulalo tessukunna decision need not be applicable today in different circumstances... Circumstances could be environmental or just may be your priorities in life have changed...don't get attached to the decision... This will not work for people who look backwards and spend their time in regrets of could have, would have , should have ... However for people who look forwards and drive life , it is like climbing everest - does not matter how you got half way up the mountain, the only decision to make is whether you want to climb up or down , do you have the supplies and the strength to follow the path of your choice and move on..the plus you have now is more information to make that decision on - what it took to climb halfway and whether it was worth it...take a check point every now and then and revalidate aa chal ke tujhe main leke chalu ik aise gagan ke tale jahan gam bhi na ho, aansoo bhi na ho,bas pyaar hi pyaar pale | ||
| Movieanalyst Junior Artist Username: Movieanalyst Post Number: 761 Registered: 03-2008 Posted From: 98.180.196.219 Rating: N/A |
Good!! | ||
| Seemabidda Junior Artist Username: Seemabidda Post Number: 201 Registered: 07-2008 Posted From: 203.18.187.50 Rating: N/A |
Good one Anand garu. | ||
| Anand_n Side Hero Username: Anand_n Post Number: 4661 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 167.24.104.150 Rating: |
MS, Why we make decisions that we would not recommend to others.. Decisions are made based on various critical drivers , their priorities in our minds...Of these only the tangible, quantifiable decision drivers are replicable across people...we feel comfortable giving advice on these drivers.. The problem comes when we think/feel that we are bucking the norm, going on impulse/gut feel,have no rational basis to back our decision, or our risk tolerance is higher than someone else's .. here we will hesitate - because the payoff we perceive in that decision may not be of equal importance to someone else... /**I am struggling to understand, why we make certain decisions and stick to them.**/ Can be due to many things - In a positive case - conviction that it was the right thing to do and still is.. In a negative case - inability/refusal to admit that things did not turn out the way we expected them to be Rational response - the ability to revalidate the decision, if the assumptions made at the beginning are still valid, and options available at intermittent points in time ..course correction However, not all decisions lend themselves to this... You alright ? Or am I reading too much into the tone of your post ? aa chal ke tujhe main leke chalu ik aise gagan ke tale jahan gam bhi na ho, aansoo bhi na ho,bas pyaar hi pyaar pale | ||
| Mallik Side Hero Username: Mallik Post Number: 6307 Registered: 10-2008 Posted From: 162.116.29.69 Rating: N/A |
Other side is always green ki idi opposite mama.. Manam emi decision teeskunnaa, pusukkuna adi jetkaa ichhinaa.. aa thokkale.. ide better decisioin anukoni set avutham.. lekunte bathakalememo.. In this db, there's always someone watching you!! | ||
| Dlm Hero Username: Dlm Post Number: 12009 Registered: 04-2008 Posted From: 98.180.196.219 Rating: N/A |
hmmm good thread... will disco in the evening.. CBN is History - YSR is Present - Chiru is Future | ||
| Getafix Side Hero Username: Getafix Post Number: 2436 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 159.127.66.112 Rating: N/A |
thou loves thyself decisions..  decisions are like babies.... just like a mother loves her children unconditionally .. we love our decisions no matter what. Juts like a mother is fiercely protective about her children we too are protective of our decisions. Mummy deggarikelli mee abbayi ila chesthunandu ani evadanna complain chesthe ..mummy ala cheppinavallani kabaddi aadesthadi first.. atne manam mana decisions gurinchi ani anukuntunna. | ||
| Teluguhero Junior Artist Username: Teluguhero Post Number: 526 Registered: 04-2008 Posted From: 96.26.133.83 Rating: N/A |
ok I will give you one example If Person A is not happy about his job because of low billing rate .So he decided to change field and he learnt new course and ready for new opportunity. Now he think about the oucome of the decision.what happen if he fail to perform job duties properly because of not enough experince in new field and if company will fire him howlong it will take to get a new job in his original filed Then he will change the decision and he will continue in same job even though he is not happy with low billing rate. Here first he try to take bold decision like others and then he scared about the outcome of the decision | ||
| Mallik Side Hero Username: Mallik Post Number: 6296 Registered: 10-2008 Posted From: 162.116.29.69 Rating: N/A |
Mental tammi.. naaku edi disco cheshinaa, vague gaa, gaalilo disco cheyyadam ishtam undadu.. shaampul ki oka example tho disco cheyyaali.. Oka exampul tho kottu.. disco cheshi pedthaa.. In this db, there's always someone watching you!! | ||
| Guttonkay Junior Artist Username: Guttonkay Post Number: 818 Registered: 05-2008 Posted From: 148.87.67.133 Rating: N/A |
when we make decisions knowing that its going to be hard, are we trying to achieve happiness or any other goal(emotional or materialistic), or just chosing a path just to see whats in store. ------------------------------------------------------------ ---------------- It could be any number of reasons and depends on circumstances at that time. Some decisions we make due to necesity, some out of desperation and some out of ego. It's human nature to be egotistic. Most decisions we make are made hoping for the best. The best outcome may not happen b'coz it depends on so many other people and so many other interactions and situations. That's life. | ||
| Annavaram Junior Artist Username: Annavaram Post Number: 792 Registered: 12-2006 Posted From: 71.97.15.86 Rating: N/A |
for starters what breeds the contempt towards the other person involved, it could be several reasons primarily the one being our own intolerance of the other person's unwilling ness to agree with our thought process and falling in line to our thy mighty know all self so it eventually comes back to our ego and to satisfy it we do indulge in the above things you mentioned frankly nothing wrong with it, we do it enough times and than may be some of us realize just may be we are wrong and the thought process changes and we become more tolerant.. it's an evolving process Ps: your emotional turmoil is endearing, for all the suffering you have inflicted upon someone close to you, i think you have paid the price for it already with all this venting out.. rest in peace my friend  | ||
| Wrathchild Side Hero Username: Wrathchild Post Number: 5057 Registered: 03-2009 Posted From: 192.146.101.24 Rating: N/A |
What i dont understand why is endurance is not the same across different areas. For some one who climbed mt everest with so much endurance, everything in life should be a cakewalk.yet they may not be successful in other areas,infact they may be miserable failures. | ||
| One Hero Username: One Post Number: 11789 Registered: 09-2008 Posted From: 66.45.237.210 Rating: N/A |
good disc mama.....naku ardham kadu oko sari anipisthu vuntundi..emiti ee jeevitham endhuku ee money.emiti asalu ani.... Try and fail, but don't fail to try.. | ||
| Mental_sachinodu Comedian Username: Mental_sachinodu Post Number: 1234 Registered: 10-2008 Posted From: 63.161.147.10 Rating: N/A |
well said, baaga chepparu annai. the world of appearances may or may not be real, or both may and may not be real - or may be indescribable; or may be real and indescribable, or unreal and indescribable; or in the end may be read and unreal and indescribable - its all Syadvada | ||
| Mental_sachinodu Comedian Username: Mental_sachinodu Post Number: 1233 Registered: 10-2008 Posted From: 63.161.147.10 Rating: N/A |
annai, "doesnt like me" konchem mari ekkuva emo, i just had an objection on the way some of your posts were, its from my perspective, i usually do not like getting personal in the db. the world of appearances may or may not be real, or both may and may not be real - or may be indescribable; or may be real and indescribable, or unreal and indescribable; or in the end may be read and unreal and indescribable - its all Syadvada | ||
| Wrathchild Side Hero Username: Wrathchild Post Number: 5056 Registered: 03-2009 Posted From: 192.146.101.71 Rating: N/A |
M_S, why ppl venture out to climb mt everest, even though they know its a herculean task. Its just the sheer pleasure to conquer something..i think little bit of that lies in all of us.. | ||
| Pplsuck Junior Artist Username: Pplsuck Post Number: 548 Registered: 07-2008 Posted From: 99.234.115.56 Rating: N/A |
I got things to say....but M_S doesnt like me, as I always go way too deep into personals in DB...so I shut up.... | ||
| Mental_sachinodu Comedian Username: Mental_sachinodu Post Number: 1232 Registered: 10-2008 Posted From: 63.161.147.10 Rating: N/A |
my point was to say when we make certain decisions just to prove a point, or out of contempt towards the people involved, no matter what you loose(materialistic) or suffer(emotional) in the future, but just to satiate your momentary satisfaction of hurting someone. i guess i might not be thinking coherent enough, as i seem to be getting confused.
brother, can you elaborate on this. the world of appearances may or may not be real, or both may and may not be real - or may be indescribable; or may be real and indescribable, or unreal and indescribable; or in the end may be read and unreal and indescribable - its all Syadvada | ||
| Annavaram Junior Artist Username: Annavaram Post Number: 791 Registered: 12-2006 Posted From: 71.97.15.86 Rating: N/A |
it's a matter of survival brother, as long as one takes care of themselves and their family it eventually will translate into a better society | ||
| Teluguhero Junior Artist Username: Teluguhero Post Number: 525 Registered: 04-2008 Posted From: 96.26.133.83 Rating: N/A |
Hoping for someting to happen over which we have no control over its outcome. We avoid making certin decisions according to our fears of outcomes | ||
| Annavaram Junior Artist Username: Annavaram Post Number: 790 Registered: 12-2006 Posted From: 71.97.15.86 Rating: N/A |
the goal has to be either of the two you mentioned, how could it be any other way? | ||
| Mental_sachinodu Comedian Username: Mental_sachinodu Post Number: 1231 Registered: 10-2008 Posted From: 63.161.147.10 Rating: N/A |
Not to counter you, but 10% is not small considering what the 10% can try to achieve.
When I said ego, i did not use it in a negative way, this might be true in a sense, but then when we make decisions knowing that its going to be hard, are we trying to achieve happiness or any other goal(emotional or materialistic), or just chosing a path just to see whats in store. the world of appearances may or may not be real, or both may and may not be real - or may be indescribable; or may be real and indescribable, or unreal and indescribable; or in the end may be read and unreal and indescribable - its all Syadvada | ||
| Wrathchild Side Hero Username: Wrathchild Post Number: 5055 Registered: 03-2009 Posted From: 192.146.101.24 Rating: N/A |
Society here is a big joke. I guess more than 90% forget about society. its only restricted to themselves and family.
More than ego, its the belief in your self.but others can easily take that for ego | ||
| Mental_sachinodu Comedian Username: Mental_sachinodu Post Number: 1230 Registered: 10-2008 Posted From: 63.161.147.10 Rating: N/A |
I understand life is full of struggles, triumph or not, people put thier efforts to achieve what they deem as important to themselves, their family, their society. Sometimes the path we choose is full of obstacles, both foreseen and unexpected, Sometimes the path we choose are the one's we do not usually suggest to anyone else when giving a sane advice, for reasons making sense to only ourselves, we move along paths less travelled. From what I have experienced so far, struggles are the worst, when you have to go against your own loved one's. I am struggling to understand, why we make certain decisions and stick to them. Is it because of the satisfaction that we have chosen a direction that we really want to inspite of the future struggles we have in store. Is it because of the ego we have that we should take a path that we seem to like, rather than the path suggested by someone else? My attempt is just to understand what drives us to make certain decisions which are not the obvious choices made by others, but not to question the decision itself. I do not believe regrets in hindsight, the decisions you make, make you the person you are. the world of appearances may or may not be real, or both may and may not be real - or may be indescribable; or may be real and indescribable, or unreal and indescribable; or in the end may be read and unreal and indescribable - its all Syadvada |
