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     Bunty717 Moderator Username: Bunty717 Post Number: 31138 Registered: 02-2008 Rating: N/A |
seriously ee kaalam aada ladies and vonta that too baaga vantaa.. naku telisina uuth kurrod andaru vallu valla wives ki vonta basics ikkadiki vochekaa train chesukunnaru.. parents vonta nerpatam eppudoo maneseru.. maa ammayiki vontaa radu ante vallu valla kid ni baaga penchinattu.. andariki golden heart PK telusu.. naaku KF telusu.. | ||
| Iamim Side Hero Username: Iamim Post Number: 4331 Registered: 03-2008 Posted From: 117.195.184.164 Rating: N/A |
Rama rama.. maa kids inka teens loki kooda raledu.. Anand is kidding...  | ||
| Anand_n Hero Username: Anand_n Post Number: 12666 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 72.177.241.31 Rating: N/A |
No - but by the same token we cannot expect our kids to strive to set high expectations for themselves and make a name for themselves - but we do don't we  And I have been a SAHM mom for 2 years with 2 kids at the most difficult ages of 6 and 1-2 and a working mom for 15 with a demanding job for most time - SAHM was an absolute cakewalk compared to being a working mom - none of the responsibilities fall off your plate because you are working- feeding, clothing, teaching, mentoring everything still has to be done - only some of it is shared with the spouse 2 years of SAHM lo enta free time undedo after tending to the kids and housework - I finished reading a rackworth of fiction , painted a bunch of paintings, cooked elaborate spreads for regular parties , had time for lunch potlucks with the ladies - all these leisure activities are what fall off the plate when working - not "managing kids or homework" And I love my work so I have no complaints The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance; the wise grows it under his feet : James Oppenheim | ||
| Bushu Side Hero Username: Bushu Post Number: 5652 Registered: 04-2009 Posted From: 24.61.12.115 Rating: N/A |
that's what got him into the IIM.  and IIT education is not just academic kadhaa. I am sure he is using it everyday.balupu s/o gelupu | ||
| Filmbuff Comedian Username: Filmbuff Post Number: 1339 Registered: 11-2011 Posted From: 202.4.164.17 Rating: N/A |
Again that is not fair, again a male view..this bugger has gone to IIT, to what extent is he using his IIT education...at least he might be using his IIM education to some extent....so is he fully fulfilling his qualifications.. | ||
| Bushu Side Hero Username: Bushu Post Number: 5648 Registered: 04-2009 Posted From: 24.61.12.115 Rating: N/A |
he can't. but he has a right to feel bad, no? especially if she is a highly educated grad, has given so much to getting that education and then does not really use that skill for the intended purpose. we all accept things because it is someone's choice but we can feel bad about it if we don't think its right. balupu s/o gelupu | ||
| Filmbuff Comedian Username: Filmbuff Post Number: 1338 Registered: 11-2011 Posted From: 202.4.164.17 Rating: N/A |
This is what i have an issue with..how can this guy say this too....if his wife wanted to stay at home and make phulkas that is her choice, he can't force her to work to take the nation forward... | ||
| Bushu Side Hero Username: Bushu Post Number: 5646 Registered: 04-2009 Posted From: 24.61.12.115 Rating: N/A |
issue idhi kaadhu bhayya. perceptions toward working women. balupu s/o gelupu | ||
| Filmbuff Comedian Username: Filmbuff Post Number: 1337 Registered: 11-2011 Posted From: 202.4.164.17 Rating: |
I don't have the time to go through the article or the comments. I know from my personal experience, most of my batchmates from IIM actually preferred to have a non-working wife, because of the long hours, travels and stress on our jobs. It is just easier to manage the household than compound the issues with another working wife. Leave aside the wives, many of the girls from my batch are not working anymore, most of them just do some freelancing, or stay at home or do some part time at some school or NGO. In my view stay at home moms are doing a more difficult job than working at a stupid desk and typing out code or attending calls for 10 hours a day. I was speaking to a couple of girls at office and they say that coming to work is more peaceful than staying at home, cooking, bringing up kids, managing homework, in - laws etc. In fact, speaking to a lot of women, i realise that there is an different pressure in most families and cities that is to have working women as wives because of the steep rise in cost of living and aspirations. My view on this is that - everyone should be free to make their own choices keeping in mind their family requirements, ambitions ...none should be forced to work or stopped to work...that is a purely personal decision... | ||
| Anand_n Hero Username: Anand_n Post Number: 12665 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 167.24.24.150 Rating: N/A |
Why do you think a working woman does not teach the "right stuff" to her kids ?The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance; the wise grows it under his feet : James Oppenheim | ||
| Dreamcatcher Side Hero Username: Dreamcatcher Post Number: 3612 Registered: 11-2009 Posted From: 108.48.99.41 Rating: N/A |
I am not sure how true this is, from my experience, we both work and we both share practically everything and anything, that is the only way, otherwise couples would go mad with the stress. I see the same pretty much in all houses in my circle, in fact, I see men contributing more sometimes. :-) | ||
| Bushu Side Hero Username: Bushu Post Number: 5642 Registered: 04-2009 Posted From: 24.61.12.115 Rating: N/A |
agreed. that womb connection stays for life, I think. balupu s/o gelupu | ||
| Dreamcatcher Side Hero Username: Dreamcatcher Post Number: 3611 Registered: 11-2009 Posted From: 108.48.99.41 Rating: N/A |
At the same time, boys are more attached to, and pampered by their moms. This gives her a significant advantage when it comes to telling the boys about mending their wrong ways, if needed. | ||
| Bushu Side Hero Username: Bushu Post Number: 5640 Registered: 04-2009 Posted From: 24.61.12.115 Rating: N/A |
a strong logic to be used not to teach them much.
oka SAHM has a lot of contribution - absolutely. but i also see many indian men carrying wrong notions about working women. primarily because when they interact with one such person, they need to treat them as an equal. the man suddenly does not have anything special about himself; and the woman is usually working AND running the house. so the man comes short. aa complex ni cover cheskodaaniki, they belittle working woman. chaala common. balupu s/o gelupu | ||
| Dreamcatcher Side Hero Username: Dreamcatcher Post Number: 3610 Registered: 11-2009 Posted From: 108.48.99.41 Rating: N/A |
I am just trying to quantify a SAHM contribution and put it in the perspective of how important that is for future generations. :-). I absolutely agree with your point, boys learn everything from dads, I have a son to see it practically. That scares The heck out of me sometimes. :-) | ||
| Last_avataar Junior Artist Username: Last_avataar Post Number: 221 Registered: 09-2012 Posted From: 174.17.24.74 Rating: N/A |
Career women have no extra contribution, as world thinks. They work hard for themselves. Home makers sacrifice a lot face a lot of insult and frustration, still they contribute way more than they expected. If their work is to be valued, just imagine how much they would earn I see lot of women look down their counterparts who are home makers , who donot have any respect for the work done at home | ||
| Bushu Side Hero Username: Bushu Post Number: 5635 Registered: 04-2009 Posted From: 24.61.12.115 Rating: N/A |
the question is - why is only a mother responsible for kids? what is the father's job then? what if they both work (if they can) and share the job of rising kids? it is very clear that boys learn a lot from their dads; so isnt the mom being handicapped by being forced to teach a boy? balupu s/o gelupu | ||
| Dreamcatcher Side Hero Username: Dreamcatcher Post Number: 3609 Registered: 11-2009 Posted From: 108.48.99.41 Rating: N/A |
How does one quantify a working woman's contribution vs. a SAHM? In my view, a SAHM is contributing more to the next gen and future if she is teaching the right stuff to her kids, especially boys on how to treat women. | ||
| Bushu Side Hero Username: Bushu Post Number: 5630 Registered: 04-2009 Posted From: 24.61.12.115 Rating: |
yendhess .. aadu north loni edhavalni udhesinchi raasina article. aa regressive KHAP panchayats nadipey lands lo thinking gurinchi idhi. aadu maree open ga anledu kabatti manam artham seskuni alaa munduku saagi povaali. balupu s/o gelupu | ||
| Rajusk Megastar Username: Rajusk Post Number: 25710 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 24.185.0.74 Rating: N/A |
 meeru PK laanti youth anukonna mana EK age vunkul anukoled.. | ||
| Getafix Hero Username: Getafix Post Number: 12280 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 76.118.67.97 Rating: N/A |
CB emantu articl rasademo kani english vinglish lo sridevi bhartha esinodi atttitude suyinchadu.... what a pity.. CB ki - COO wife roju performance evaluation etti pocket money sanctioning cheysthe all set... | ||
| Last_avataar Junior Artist Username: Last_avataar Post Number: 220 Registered: 09-2012 Posted From: 174.17.24.74 Rating: N/A |
My mother worked for 40 years. My wife is the COO at an international bank. It makes me proud. She doesn't make phulkas for me. We outsource that work to our help, and it doesn't really bother me. If my wife had spent her life in the kitchen, it would have bothered me more. Working status doesn't make a Women any great, it is your perceptive. If you have respect for any work, you can appreciate a home maker who does more work than working women | ||
| Anand_n Hero Username: Anand_n Post Number: 12664 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 167.24.24.150 Rating: N/A |
I don't think he implied - He was very clear about what he thought- that career women contribute more Now I would like to see your counter point on why you disagree with him Because I do think an educated female population who puts their education to use in the workforce does take the nation ahead .. Whether SAHMs and their husbands are happy with their choice, whether they should have the right to choose that is a different debate altogether... His take was on the stereotypes perpetrated on career woman and he used the movie as an starting point - do you really think such stereotypes do not exist in reality - how many times have you seen statements like work chesevallaki pogaru etc. etc in this same DB ? Prime example - the statement in this DB that 90% of call centre employees are characterless and alantollu sachina paraledu..that was also today's youth not my grand ad's gen I can choose to be at home, you can choose to be at home - life would be a lot easier...but we are not. And not all of it is because of financial benefit - ask yourself why The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance; the wise grows it under his feet : James Oppenheim | ||
| Mental_sachinodu Side Hero Username: Mental_sachinodu Post Number: 9666 Registered: 10-2008 Posted From: 208.85.128.5 Rating: N/A |
chetan bhagat soosthunte Sekhar gammula of IIT D la undhi the world of appearances may or may not be real, or both may and may not be real - or may be indescribable; or may be real and indescribable, or unreal and indescribable; or in the end may be read and unreal and indescribable - its all Syadvada | ||
| Pulibongaram Side Hero Username: Pulibongaram Post Number: 4936 Registered: 03-2012 Posted From: 162.115.108.104 Rating: N/A |
that whole thing was bhooth......mana sinmaalu soosi ikkada amlikans meeru ittaage untaaraa india lo adiginattu undi...... anyway what do u egaspect from second-rate minds | ||
| Anand_n Hero Username: Anand_n Post Number: 12663 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 167.24.24.150 Rating: N/A |
Actually - if I was in that mom's place and had the luxury I would probably do the mollycoddling too - ayyo grades potayi teesukuvelli iste saripoddi anukuntam - ippudu choice ledu - so the kids are forced to be disciplined because of the consequences
Oka point nundi argue chesetappudu iddari points maname cheppalsina avasaram ledu kada - acknowledging a counterpoint is enough - the other side will elaborate on their points
Again he is addressing the men - not the women - so I did not see anything wrong
Absolutely agree- infact my first post said that - it shows the influence of his mom ani So it is for people who have grown up with a SAHM and have a SAHW to give the counter arguement of the advantages on that end - everyone is limited by their own experiences kada The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance; the wise grows it under his feet : James Oppenheim | ||
| Zuri Junior Artist Username: Zuri Post Number: 40 Registered: 12-2012 Posted From: 208.53.147.174 Rating: N/A |
/qa(Anand_n,} Knee jerk reaction kademo sis, kind of expected this. Direct ga anakapoina he implied that working women are better and that a women should be a lot more than hot-pulka maker ... what does that mean...SAHM spend their entire life in kitchen? May be he doesn't value the contributions of a stay at home wife/mom as he never experienced that And as for present Indian men, they have become much more open minded compared to our dad's era, most of them really don't have an issue with their wifes' working. Frankly, there is nothing wrong if someone prefers a stay at home wife, and there are a lot of women who prefer that. As long as they are happy and secure with their choices, and have mutual respect, working/not-working is a non-issue. | ||
| Getafix Hero Username: Getafix Post Number: 12279 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 159.127.66.112 Rating: |
to me - he was not. I think he is working women's club homer.. SAHMs ni usband perspective lo characterize chesadu.. banda bhoothu adi.. His mom was a working woman and his wife is COO - so obvious ga biased ga unnadu. There are many SAHMs out there who are very capable and do provide input regarding husband's work and issues. CB point lo basic flaw - husband work gurinchi input ivvalante woman kuda working ayyundali anatam.. konchem extrapolate chesthe - CB view lo - IT lo pani jese woman IT husband ki perfect input ivvagaldu.. doctor wife gives good input to doctor husband so on..ila workout avvadu ga real world lo. Another bhoothu assumption in this article - CB assumes SAHMs are nothing but phulka cooking wives.. thats an insult to SAHMs who run families on their own. | ||
| Rajusk Megastar Username: Rajusk Post Number: 25699 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 159.125.79.36 Rating: N/A |
drawbacks cheppakonda ..balanced view etla avuthundi ani naa quechen..
this may be ..lack of discipline on the part of the kid or lack of enforcing on the part of the parent..nothing to do with working parent or non-working parent anukonta...at least in my limited experience with our kids | ||
| Der_schuler Side Hero Username: Der_schuler Post Number: 8613 Registered: 01-2009 Posted From: 38.106.198.17 Rating: N/A |
idho pedha bewarse gadu...aadu aadi EP novels..... | ||
| Anand_n Hero Username: Anand_n Post Number: 12662 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 167.24.24.150 Rating: N/A |
Enduku - he was balanced in his opinion - he listed the advantages he saw and acknowledged that there are drawbacks too
He was addressing people who debate from the other side - SAHMs contribute cheyyaru ani ekkada analedu kada I do not understand the kneejerk reaction I agree with all the benefits he stated - me and hubby do discuss work concerns, we review each other's appraisal comments .. I grew up with a working mom and learnt to do a lot of stuff earlier than my friends with SAHMs did - necessity teaches stuff ..samething with my kids Do all kids catch up in the end- may be But a friend was just complaining her son calls from school that he forgot homework bring it in - my kids know to check before they leave home cos mom cannot fetch stuff to them.I would call that kid molly-coddled - someone else may not The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance; the wise grows it under his feet : James Oppenheim | ||
| Rajusk Megastar Username: Rajusk Post Number: 25694 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 159.125.79.36 Rating: N/A |
vunkul ni baaga kummar... next book ki sardukontad ... | ||
| Yahoo Comedian Username: Yahoo Post Number: 1491 Registered: 04-2008 Posted From: 78.101.179.171 Rating: N/A |
One of the post I am re-posting from the same source whch would give a necessary bait ani anukunta. Mr.Bhagat, your posting made sense to me until you started giving instances about how a working woman is superior to a SAHM (stay at home mom) 1." For instance, one, a man who marries a career woman gets a partner to discuss his own career with. A working woman may be able to relate better to organizational issues than a housewife. A spouse who understands office politics and can give you good advice can be an asset." Mr. Bhagat , not every person likes to discuss their office affairs at home. Some people like to keep their office life separate from home life. Home is a place where you unwind and try to get away from it all and do something else such as - playing with kids , talking about life and world in general, for a change. There is more to life than office and its problems. And if a man choses once in a while to discuss their office problems, today's housewives are not as dumb as you think. As far as office politics is concerned , it is a universal problem in a sense because you have to deal with politics in every walk of your life (be it a school, college or even your social circle)... it has more to deal with human foibles , flaw of character and mind's complexities in a fiercely competitive world where everyone wants to beat the rest and come up at the top. Any person who is even a decently good judge of character, can take a step back and analyze a situation objectively would be able to do that ... she doesn't need to sit in an office to do that ! 2." Three, a working woman is better exposed to the world. She brings back knowledge and information that can be useful to the family. Whether it's the latest deals or the best mutual fund to invest in, or even new holiday destinations, a working woman can add to the quality of life." Today's SAHM's are more outgoing than you realise - They deal with people from all walks of life , day in and day out . From picking up groceries , paying bills , meeting up with school authorities , meeting up with doctors , helping kids with their studies , dropping and picking kids from schools , making reservation for the family, organizing social events and the list goes on .... in this age of media and net ,she also picks the best deals for her family online or from newspapers . some even do their extensive research and look for proper avenues to invest money in. How does a working woman do it better by sitting in the office, where she has to devote a large part of her day to her work? Wouldn't it be better if we just say that some women from both groups do that and some don't ? - What is the point of generalizing women in two groups ? Each has its own pros and cons , when will we learn to accept that? .( No wonder a man has written this article) 3. "Four, the children of a working woman learn to be more independent and will do better than mollycoddled children. " Mr . Bhagat, sorry to say but i expected better understanding and writing from you . The statement above is plainly biased and wrong ! I personally have numerous friends who are SAHM's and their kids are perfectly independent , disciplined , loving and caring and not "mollycoddled" as you make them out to be .Research in the US shows that children neglected at an early stage have a higher tendency towards volatile behavior.... and don't even get me started about the daycare facilities and parenting neglect of working parents in India as well as abroad. Your “mollycoddled†comment seems like your subjective opinion. You are entitled to have it, just do not expect people to accept it like a gospel. Next time, do some more research and cite some data backing it. 4."Five, working women often find some fulfillment in their jobs, apart from home. Hence, they may have better life satisfaction, and feel less dependent on the man. This in turn can lead to more harmony. Of course, all these benefits accrue if men are able to keep their massive, fragile egos aside and see women as equals" Again, perhaps you forgot to see the other side of the spectrum - It's not just about man's ego .... some working women today have massive egoes too - most fights at home are borne out of power struggles in both men as well as women. Some women I know deem it beneath them to do household chores .... and once there is disharmony about every little responsibility at home , it's nearly impossible to see harmony in the situation. The only point on which I can agree with you is perhaps the 2nd point where financial security is concerned . That is a valid point but then again that is a personal decision depending on the priority of a person. So , to sum it up, I am not at all saying that this is the case with every working woman or every SAHM, but that there are pros and cons to every situation . My point was to remind you just that. you decided to glorify the former forgetting to acknowledge the massive effort put in by thousands of SAHM's out there .... and that made your article sound mean and biased !! I don't have an issue with working women but doing petty comparisons isn't going to get you anywhere . GET REAL. As a writer of repute , we expect a better understanding of the human psyche from you . | ||
| Aha Side Hero Username: Aha Post Number: 2459 Registered: 01-2011 Posted From: 208.100.40.42 Rating: N/A |
+1 working wife who can cook good ante max. manollu happy shaana shaana santhoshaana salaam ye cheyna....... | ||
| Pulibongaram Side Hero Username: Pulibongaram Post Number: 4926 Registered: 03-2012 Posted From: 162.115.108.104 Rating: |
what about akkum-bakkum? | ||
| Iamim Side Hero Username: Iamim Post Number: 4330 Registered: 03-2008 Posted From: 117.195.181.68 Rating: N/A |
Thanks!! Hope all fine with you.. Yeah time flies.. my kids have more knowledge about movies than me...  | ||
| Anand_n Hero Username: Anand_n Post Number: 12661 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 167.24.24.150 Rating: N/A |
Long time How are you ? And your girls ? Time has flown - remember discussing about the kids when they were in elementary achool- they must be in high school too now College streams decide chsukunnara ?The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance; the wise grows it under his feet : James Oppenheim | ||
| Iamim Side Hero Username: Iamim Post Number: 4323 Registered: 03-2008 Posted From: 117.195.181.68 Rating: N/A |
Future belongs to Single working Moms No need for Dads.. No need for Hubbies.. | ||
| Amigo Comedian Username: Amigo Post Number: 1523 Registered: 05-2011 Posted From: 24.228.177.250 Rating: N/A |
Waiting for Ravino mama for giving interval bang and OT for climax | ||
| Abhysg Side Hero Username: Abhysg Post Number: 7540 Registered: 08-2008 Posted From: 69.142.200.156 Rating: N/A |
http://www.indusladies.com/forums/book-lovers/175511-home-tr uths-on-career-wives.html ee thread lo kooda discussion nadichindi.. topic salamandini touch sesinatlundi.. no siggy | ||
| Cinejeevi Comedian Username: Cinejeevi Post Number: 1852 Registered: 09-2010 Posted From: 69.147.191.50 Rating: N/A |
taadu saramsam emito kluptamgaa vivarimpudu | ||
| Triggerblaster Side Hero Username: Triggerblaster Post Number: 2695 Registered: 03-2008 Posted From: 140.98.210.243 Rating: N/A |
Mantram madhi nundi udbhavistundi, tantram tala nundi udbhavistundi | ||
| Amigo Comedian Username: Amigo Post Number: 1522 Registered: 05-2011 Posted From: 24.228.177.250 Rating: N/A |
I wont refute that...ante I just want highlight that fathers role kuda equal ga untadhi ani....na preception...
Good for you andi.....me pillalu ke kadhu....other women ki kuda meere role model avvochu aithe.. | ||
| Triggerblaster Side Hero Username: Triggerblaster Post Number: 2694 Registered: 03-2008 Posted From: 140.98.210.243 Rating: N/A |
The tantra is "Domination" Domination" "Domination". Not only between wife and a husband, the neighbours,casts religions, countrys and so on and so forth. Nenu goppa ane yedava aham, aham brahmasmi. on the contrary The marriages work because of compromise, there is a give and a take in everything, does not matter guy or girl. If wife do not like to do something she do not have to. If she likes something she can. yes it is simple to say that. but what extent? again it is a perspective, this world has people who think I dont care who wifes have sex with but I love them? is that an extreme, I would argue 99% of people say yes. Theory of moderation is the mantra, Not hurting an other living being as much as possible is the mantra. No tantras only mantras | ||
| Anand_n Hero Username: Anand_n Post Number: 12660 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 167.24.24.150 Rating: N/A |
Self-goal anukunna taking parental accountability anna the fact does not change Parents are the first role models for any child in gender roles , responsibilities and respect given to each parent conditions their thinking in a certain manner...Can you refute that ? I take my parental responsibility seriously - I know how I am treated, how I behave colors the gender role perception of my kids - I am not about to palm off my responsibility in how my sons see the woman's role in the family - so self goal anukunna naku problem ledu The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance; the wise grows it under his feet : James Oppenheim | ||
| Amigo Comedian Username: Amigo Post Number: 1521 Registered: 05-2011 Posted From: 24.228.177.250 Rating: N/A |
ok fair enough | ||
| Truelies Side Hero Username: Truelies Post Number: 5737 Registered: 05-2012 Posted From: 74.237.6.152 Rating: N/A |
not 100% mother, but yes...mother, father, siblings, friends, society, teacher..everyone has their share. | ||
| Gandhiguevara Legend Username: Gandhiguevara Post Number: 37032 Registered: 10-2009 Posted From: 124.123.162.131 Rating: N/A |
kikiki....bothigaa pani M leni byatchi | ||
| Humpty_dumpty Moderator Username: Humpty_dumpty Post Number: 19696 Registered: 02-2009 Rating: N/A |
correct | ||
| Getafix Hero Username: Getafix Post Number: 12274 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 159.127.66.112 Rating: N/A |
dont think so.. Men learn from Men on how to treat a women.. ee perspective son ki direct source is father - if father treats his wife like crap - it will have huge influence on Son. Mana desam setting lo chepthunna..Single mother families are exempted. | ||
| Feldgrau Junior Artist Username: Feldgrau Post Number: 62 Registered: 12-2012 Posted From: 208.53.147.174 Rating: N/A |
I dont think it's a self goal...A mother has a very important role in the upbringing of a son....bayata ammayilani ela treat cheyyalo mother deggare nerchukontaru..vice versa for gals.... | ||
| Amigo Comedian Username: Amigo Post Number: 1519 Registered: 05-2011 Posted From: 24.228.177.250 Rating: N/A |
Madam idhi edho self goal laaga undhi.... Looking at the plight of women today( not being looked after well by men).. can we now say that their mothers have not raised them well enough? Can we further conclude that the fault is ultimately with the woman ( the mothers)? j/k though. | ||
| Getafix Hero Username: Getafix Post Number: 12272 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 76.118.67.97 Rating: N/A |
HaryAna,delhi,up,bihar kurrol ki targeted ee article..men in those parts treat women like crap..south lo men ki this does not apply. | ||
| Tilak Hero Username: Tilak Post Number: 11074 Registered: 02-2012 Posted From: 14.99.56.30 Rating: N/A |
ento ardam ayyi kaanatte undi ... kaani saapalu pedutunnav .. nenu drop! bokka garu .. paarin ellinappudu .. hey .. I am susanne ani seffukuntadanta .. kiki India must conquer the World and nothing less than that is my ideal - Swami Vivekananda | ||
| Diviseema Hero Username: Diviseema Post Number: 13040 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 203.200.27.189 Rating: N/A |
//ankshalla kakunda .. naa choice idi .. this is what i prefer .. ani soft ga cheppocha .. adi kuda cheppakudada? alage .. aadavallu .. mogavallaki .. pub kendukellav .. aa friend tho club kendukellav .. aavida tho antha sepu phone matladaku ani cheppocha .. adi kuda banned ee na? // cha cha . mana vaallu annatharuvatha ennaina cheppochhu. this is not fitting for u. u look odd in this. this is not safe at this time etc. iam not telling we must not even talk. but ruddakoodadhu. kondharu sadist naa biddalu vvuntaru. eppudu politicians and baba;s comments choosthunnavu ga worst. magadiki istam vachhinappudu bayatiki pothadu, smoke chesthadu, mandhu esthadu , tours ki poothadu. aadollakemundhi bhayya. edo vallakunna andhaniki inkonchem merupulu diddukuni murisipotharu. vaallakunna athi koddi entertainments lo mukyamainavi shopping and making up. adhi kooda khudaradhu maku konchem kantiki aanela kanipisthe kummestham anadam amanusham. mattikottukupothundhi samajam elanti edhava panulu chesthe. Oka Jagan Fan http://i.imgur.com/w4y3c.jpg | ||
| Farmer Side Hero Username: Farmer Post Number: 5725 Registered: 03-2012 Posted From: 74.63.112.142 Rating: N/A |
chilipi...neeku nachadhani telisee suzanna drop chesindi peru lonchi | ||
| Tilak Hero Username: Tilak Post Number: 11068 Registered: 02-2012 Posted From: 14.96.10.189 Rating: N/A |
vaake .. kaani Susanne Roy ni bear seyyadam ante kastam emo bhayya .. btw .. madam goru .. Grasshopper kaadatana? she is something else? India must conquer the World and nothing less than that is my ideal - Swami Vivekananda | ||
| Farmer Side Hero Username: Farmer Post Number: 5724 Registered: 03-2012 Posted From: 74.63.112.142 Rating: N/A |
Listening to Grasshoppers; Notes on democracy......ani mana arundhati roy pusthakam vundiii.......vopinions thoo ekiibhavinchaka poyinaa prose baane vuntundi madam gori books loo...nuv oka saari sadhivi full gaaa swing aithe soodalani vundhi | ||
| Tilak Hero Username: Tilak Post Number: 11064 Registered: 02-2012 Posted From: 14.96.10.189 Rating: N/A |
baa seppa kada .. lekapothe chetan bhagat gadu evadandi seppadaniki .. alantollani kuda felli seskondi fleaze ani .. India must conquer the World and nothing less than that is my ideal - Swami Vivekananda | ||
| Farmer Side Hero Username: Farmer Post Number: 5723 Registered: 03-2012 Posted From: 74.63.112.142 Rating: N/A |
chet bhagat pusthakalloo koodaa ittanti sodhe rasthadu...writing loo depth vundadu...picha lite candidate | ||
| Farmer Side Hero Username: Farmer Post Number: 5722 Registered: 03-2012 Posted From: 74.63.112.142 Rating: N/A |
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| Tilak Hero Username: Tilak Post Number: 11060 Registered: 02-2012 Posted From: 14.96.10.189 Rating: N/A |
ankshalla kakunda .. naa choice idi .. this is what i prefer .. ani soft ga cheppocha .. adi kuda cheppakudada? alage .. aadavallu .. mogavallaki .. pub kendukellav .. aa friend tho club kendukellav .. aavida tho antha sepu phone matladaku ani cheppocha .. adi kuda banned ee na? agreed .. India must conquer the World and nothing less than that is my ideal - Swami Vivekananda | ||
| Diviseema Hero Username: Diviseema Post Number: 13037 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 203.200.27.189 Rating: N/A |
//and maga gents policing enti? what do you mean by policing?/ like dont ware that , dont do this, dont go there type of stuff. monna evaro boku politicians chepthunnaru ga like sharad yadav. andhalu choopisthe rapes jaragava ani. how insane is that. ee lambdikodukulu bmw lo thirigithe lenodu daanni pagalakotti lokkovachha. ee naayalla pellalu koothullu gold chains esukuni thirigithe avi doosesukovachha. manaki edhi kavalante daanni doosesukovachha. deennaina sampadhinchali annai. doochukodam neecham. mana kantiki enno kanipisthai anni kavalanukodam mana thappu. choopinchina vaalladhi kadhu. Oka Jagan Fan http://i.imgur.com/w4y3c.jpg | ||
| Tilak Hero Username: Tilak Post Number: 11052 Registered: 02-2012 Posted From: 14.99.136.179 Rating: N/A |
okaru isthe adi "full freedom" ela avutundi annai? and maga gents policing enti? what do you mean by policing? India must conquer the World and nothing less than that is my ideal - Swami Vivekananda | ||
| Diviseema Hero Username: Diviseema Post Number: 13034 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 203.200.27.189 Rating: N/A |
super. girls ki full freedom evvali. edha policing aapali maga gents. Oka Jagan Fan http://i.imgur.com/w4y3c.jpg | ||
| Tilak Hero Username: Tilak Post Number: 11050 Registered: 02-2012 Posted From: 14.99.136.179 Rating: N/A |
Thats not prejudice, its a choice. You might have one sort of woman for dating, and another for marrying. Whats wrong with that? And if a woman changes herself to wearing more traditional clothes and making pulkas .. why would that mean she is parting with her career .. they arent mutually exclusive mate .. India must conquer the World and nothing less than that is my ideal - Swami Vivekananda | ||
| Tilak Hero Username: Tilak Post Number: 11049 Registered: 02-2012 Posted From: 14.99.136.179 Rating: N/A |
100% agree with your post .. strong and independent women andaru clubs ki veltaaru type of generalization tho rasadu kurrod .. absolutely .. to each his own .. India must conquer the World and nothing less than that is my ideal - Swami Vivekananda | ||
| Pulibongaram Side Hero Username: Pulibongaram Post Number: 4920 Registered: 03-2012 Posted From: 108.240.36.251 Rating: |
vaari mee single lo siniginaadham.......naa uddesam working non-working how does it matter ani....... pulka making ante submissive.....feeful wanting pulka-making gerals......aadu sinmaalu soosi raayadam......stars guddatam....ellandehe | ||
| Anand_n Hero Username: Anand_n Post Number: 12659 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 72.177.241.31 Rating: N/A |
ROFL - inta complex emiti andi baboi.. Why did you assume treating someone as a princess/queen makes you a servant - a king treats his queen like a queen too -why did that not occur to you ? Exactly the fraagile ego mentality that prevents men from seeing spouses as equals Bhagat talked about The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance; the wise grows it under his feet : James Oppenheim | ||
| Pulibongaram Side Hero Username: Pulibongaram Post Number: 4919 Registered: 03-2012 Posted From: 108.240.36.251 Rating: |
eti working women desaanni munduku theeskelthaaraa....vaake class lu feekadaaniki pethi vodu P attukoni ready gaa untaar anukuntaa.... | ||
| Anand_n Hero Username: Anand_n Post Number: 12658 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 72.177.241.31 Rating: |
Agree A woman who expects and commands respect of her and family and kids( a queen), teaches them to treat their spouses with the same respect Working - non-working is not the issue The context here is the fact that Bhagat was himself raised by a working mother
Malli chadivi ardham chesukovataniki try cheyyandi - if you do not get it -don't fret over it The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance; the wise grows it under his feet : James Oppenheim | ||
| Mental_sachinodu Side Hero Username: Mental_sachinodu Post Number: 9662 Registered: 10-2008 Posted From: 68.119.76.166 Rating: |
useless!! we(Men) should celebrate women, period!! career oriented or other wise. if a man chooses a phulka making women, and if he treats her like a queen, in my view its a non issue. To all wives and mothers, I graciously bow!! the world of appearances may or may not be real, or both may and may not be real - or may be indescribable; or may be real and indescribable, or unreal and indescribable; or in the end may be read and unreal and indescribable - its all Syadvada | ||
| Stalker Junior Artist Username: Stalker Post Number: 196 Registered: 08-2012 Posted From: 116.202.100.20 Rating: N/A |
goppa mentality ra baboo...afghanistan taliban attitude lekka...gender neutral ga chaste alochinchaleru...chadukunna kooda...naanna oka magade...talli oka aadade...aa matram ingitam undadu janaaniki... | ||
| Onlytruth Legend Username: Onlytruth Post Number: 112274 Registered: 01-2007 Posted From: 98.226.57.134 Rating: N/A |
mahilalni meere avamaninchadam baaga ledhu...."His girl ni sariggaa chudani vaadi mummy sarigga penchaledhu" ani naaku ardhamaindhi | ||
| Stalker Junior Artist Username: Stalker Post Number: 194 Registered: 08-2012 Posted From: 116.202.100.20 Rating: |
chaa vammo... why shld someone treat someone like a princess? idenaa empowerment ante? slave mentality ankunnane... If a girl treats his guy like a dog, which pig would have raised her...adi kooda selavivvandi... | ||
| Zulu Hero Username: Zulu Post Number: 15627 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 70.113.28.117 Rating: |
aina, If a man prefers a pulka making wife over a working woman, it is his choice, what is stopping a woman to choose a pulka making husband over a working husband..kiki | ||
| Humpty_dumpty Moderator Username: Humpty_dumpty Post Number: 19693 Registered: 02-2009 Rating: N/A |
Zulesh iPhone effect | ||
| Humpty_dumpty Moderator Username: Humpty_dumpty Post Number: 19692 Registered: 02-2009 Rating: N/A |
Urumi Serious aa Ee rojullo kooda nutan Prasad lanti hubbies unnaru antay namma lekunna | ||
| Truelies Side Hero Username: Truelies Post Number: 5729 Registered: 05-2012 Posted From: 74.237.6.152 Rating: N/A |
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| Zulu Hero Username: Zulu Post Number: 15625 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 70.113.28.117 Rating: N/A |
endi Driver kurrod type poem rasav | ||
| Urumi Side Hero Username: Urumi Post Number: 3165 Registered: 12-2011 Posted From: 208.54.87.155 Rating: N/A |
Manollaki job chese wife kaavali, vanta baaga chesi pettaali ,oka 30yrs venake vunnaaru Pdf emanna vunte link ivvandi book di. Anand, quote super vundi. | ||
| Humpty_dumpty Moderator Username: Humpty_dumpty Post Number: 19691 Registered: 02-2009 Rating: N/A |
Bushu annai Good point about china I am jus thinking when you compare with India Is it as diverse as India Naa cousins buddolluu Freshly married or getting ready to marry Working girl is priority if not default And none of them read bhagat types AFAIK Inka cocktail movie analysis and applying to the men's thinking antay DB lo essays better I don't know who are his target audience Ppl who read his books are not of the those types shown in the movie ani naa yokka adhi idhi Money aspect cheppindhee practical POV lo Evaro feel Ayyi sukka gudhaaru Money buys time which saves effort anukuntunna | ||
| Kkd Megastar Username: Kkd Post Number: 24330 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 122.164.175.152 Rating: N/A |
May be typical Punjabi Gujarathi mindset vundochu...who still want pulka making housewife to working women. | ||
| Truelies Side Hero Username: Truelies Post Number: 5726 Registered: 05-2012 Posted From: 74.237.6.152 Rating: |
I am not denying this saying, but how does this fit in the context? (with OP post) a guy can treats his girl like a princess irrespective of homemakers/working. if that is just out of context, then OK. | ||
| Chakkera_keli Junior Artist Username: Chakkera_keli Post Number: 916 Registered: 08-2012 Posted From: 99.49.61.20 Rating: N/A |
i want hot pulkas, fresh mutton curry, tomato pappu, chicken fry, bendakai vepudu, dondakay pachadi.... fresh perugu manishi basic desires marchipothunnadu..... there is nothing wrong in wife playing a home maker role..... | ||
| Onlytruth Legend Username: Onlytruth Post Number: 112269 Registered: 01-2007 Posted From: 98.226.57.134 Rating: N/A |
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| Zulu Hero Username: Zulu Post Number: 15624 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 70.113.28.117 Rating: N/A |
veedu kochem late ga veeresalingam cutting isthunnadu.. atleast andhra lo kurrollu want a working wife..infact the more they make, the greater are their chances of getting married.. | ||
| Onlytruth Legend Username: Onlytruth Post Number: 112265 Registered: 01-2007 Posted From: 98.226.57.134 Rating: N/A |
He was completely mistaken abt MAN mindset. Now-a-days very few people do not want a working wife. Contrary to that, entire this article wrongly projects as if majority men prefers Roti Making housewife. The example cited by the writer, scenario from movie "cocktail" , is possible and may be the cause of rejection is because of HOT looking/dressing clubbing woman. In that perspective i agree majority male might NOT want them | ||
| Emc2 Hero Username: Emc2 Post Number: 10034 Registered: 03-2008 Posted From: 71.246.229.243 Rating: N/A |
prince charles ni queen elizabeth raise chesindi,mari dianani princess la treat cehsada? cherapakura chedevu. | ||
| Feldgrau Junior Artist Username: Feldgrau Post Number: 59 Registered: 12-2012 Posted From: 208.53.147.174 Rating: N/A |
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| Senapathy Moderator Username: Senapathy Post Number: 14458 Registered: 01-2009 Rating: N/A |
Naa boss, 40 years old woman, 2 kids tho full busy ainaa is a super star at our institute. Won medal for early career award from Obum, got promoted to full faculty by jumping two levels. Ladies aa mazzaka. I am struck by the lightning of love and burnt beyond repair - Florentino Ariza | ||
| Bushu Side Hero Username: Bushu Post Number: 5618 Registered: 04-2009 Posted From: 24.61.12.115 Rating: N/A |
adhi just one aspect. I do hope that this article is taken seriously by the indian youth. bhagat has amazing influence on the 20+ crowd in India. China ki india ki difference is not infra. it is the woman's role in nation building. that is where they beat us. balupu s/o gelupu | ||
| Anand_n Hero Username: Anand_n Post Number: 12657 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 72.177.241.31 Rating: |
Good write up by Chetan Bhagat...And it shows the influence his mother had on him... There is a saying here..When a guy treats his girl like a princess, you know he has been raised by a queen The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance; the wise grows it under his feet : James Oppenheim | ||
| Yahoo Comedian Username: Yahoo Post Number: 1486 Registered: 04-2008 Posted From: 78.101.179.171 Rating: N/A |
Though he is trying to touch housewife pride factor, most of the working women will do make phulkas also and will made the kitchens No_man_zones sometimes. | ||
| Yahoo Comedian Username: Yahoo Post Number: 1485 Registered: 04-2008 Posted From: 78.101.179.171 Rating: N/A |
Benefits emo kaani..intlo career discussions calculations may become one more headache if they cant respect eachother space.
Idi maatram 100% correct..they will be busy in thier wrk which entitles to give dem more satisfaction that ther r driving the force. | ||
| Feldgrau Junior Artist Username: Feldgrau Post Number: 56 Registered: 12-2012 Posted From: 208.53.147.174 Rating: N/A |
Man of Substance annamata  ..good... | ||
| Rajusk Megastar Username: Rajusk Post Number: 25653 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 159.125.79.36 Rating: N/A |
ayanaki aa vishayam bodha padadaniki 15 years pattindi anukonta..kiki
aa TV serials emaina gol aithe..intlo eeyanaki padthai ani bhayam emo | ||
| Humpty_dumpty Moderator Username: Humpty_dumpty Post Number: 19684 Registered: 02-2009 Rating: |
endi eeyana gola oka 15 yrs late gaa rasaadu why doesnt he write similar stuff on TV serials depicting housewifes as kullu kuthantriks? wife working antay M O N E Y evariki chedu? | ||
| Mrhyderabad Side Hero Username: Mrhyderabad Post Number: 9917 Registered: 01-2008 Posted From: 98.221.83.18 Rating: N/A |
 this article is not about cocktail movie Don't say you don't have enough time. You have exactly the same number of hours per day that were given to Helen Keller, Pasteur, Michaelangelo, Mother Teresea, Leonardo da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson, and Albert Einstein | ||
| Yahoo Comedian Username: Yahoo Post Number: 1484 Registered: 04-2008 Posted From: 78.101.179.171 Rating: N/A |
if u like typical bollywood masala, you will like this too..not that bad. | ||
| Jodhaa Megastar Username: Jodhaa Post Number: 24715 Registered: 02-2008 Posted From: 69.174.58.132 Rating: N/A |
Post motham chadavaledhu..cocktail ayethe maathram waste cinema... | ||
| Feldgrau Junior Artist Username: Feldgrau Post Number: 55 Registered: 12-2012 Posted From: 208.53.147.174 Rating: N/A |
Netflix lo unnattundi..chuddam anukunna...you saved me from a sodhi cinema | ||
| Bunty717 Moderator Username: Bunty717 Post Number: 31126 Registered: 02-2008 Rating: N/A |
bongu lee.. pay check teste andaru proud gane feel avutaaru.. wifey job cheste feel aye mettapalem maga manish ee bhoo pepahnchakam lo evadu unaddu.. kshemana velli labhanga randi bomma lo bemmi batch tappaa.. daniki oka article.. malli appreciation..kiki andariki golden heart PK telusu.. naaku KF telusu.. | ||
| Geohot Junior Artist Username: Geohot Post Number: 198 Registered: 03-2010 Posted From: 24.229.233.87 Rating: N/A |
Outsource chesi kooda lady intlo koorchunte emi cheyyali..(just like in most of our parents style) | ||
| Mrhyderabad Side Hero Username: Mrhyderabad Post Number: 9914 Registered: 01-2008 Posted From: 98.221.83.18 Rating: N/A |
Agree with him Same here Don't say you don't have enough time. You have exactly the same number of hours per day that were given to Helen Keller, Pasteur, Michaelangelo, Mother Teresea, Leonardo da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson, and Albert Einstein | ||
| Yahoo Comedian Username: Yahoo Post Number: 1483 Registered: 04-2008 Posted From: 78.101.179.171 Rating: N/A |
Home truths on Career Wives----Girls should read, but Boys MUST read... Chetan Bhagat.. Recently, I saw the recently released movie, Cocktail. The plot revolves around a philanderer hero who has to make the tough choice between two hot women. The uber-modern movie was set in London. The characters drank, danced in nightclubs and had one-night stands with aplomb. They worked in new-age aspirational jobs like glamour photography, graphic art and software design. And yet, the guy eventually chooses the girl who cooks home food, dresses conservatively, wins his mother's approval and is happy to be the ideal Indian wife. In fact, even the rejected girl, a free-spirited, independent woman agrees to change herself. To get the guy, she is happy to cook and change her lifestyle to match that of the ideal Indian wife. While the movie was fun, such depictions disturb me a little. When successful, strong women are portrayed as finding salvation in making dal and roti for their husbands, one wonders what kind of India we are presenting to our little girls. Really, is that what a woman's life is all about — to make hot phulkas? Of course, i shouldn't be so bothered, many would say. It is a Bollywood movie. The commercial pressure to present a palatable story is real. Above all, the makers have a right to tell the narrative they want. Yet, when our most modern and forward cinema sinks into regressive territory, it is unfair to our women. It is also depressing because deep down we know such attitudes exist. Many Indian men, even the educated ones, have two distinct profiles of women — the girlfriend material and the wife material. One you party with, the other you take home. The prejudice against non-traditional women who assert themselves is strong. Let us look at another part of the world. Yahoo, a leading tech firm and a Fortune 500 company, recently hired a new woman CEO, Marissa Mayer. What's more, she was six months pregnant when she was hired, a fact she did not hide in her interviews. Marissa will take some time off after childbirth and will be back at work later. She can manage both. There is something to celebrate about that. Marissa is a role model for women and even men. I'd like Indian men to have an open mind about choosing their life partners and revise their 'ideal woman' criteria. Having a traditional wife who cooks, cleans and is submissive might be nice. However, choosing a capable, independent and career-oriented woman can also bring enormous benefits. For instance, one, a man who marries a career woman gets a partner to discuss his own career with. A working woman may be able to relate better to organizational issues than a housewife. A spouse who understands office politics and can give you good advice can be an asset. Two, a working woman diversifies the family income streams. In the era of expensive apartments and frequent lay-offs, a working spouse can help you afford a decent house and feel more secure about finances. Three, a working woman is better exposed to the world. She brings back knowledge and information that can be useful to the family. Whether it's the latest deals or the best mutual fund to invest in, or even new holiday destinations, a working woman can add to the quality of life. Four, the children of a working woman learn to be more independent and will do better than mollycoddled children. Five, working women often find some fulfillment in their jobs, apart from home. Hence, they may have better life satisfaction, and feel less dependent on the man. This in turn can lead to more harmony. Of course, all these benefits accrue if men are able to keep their massive, fragile egos aside and see women as equals. Sure, there are drawbacks also in being with working women. But the modern age that we are in, the phulka-making bride may come at a cost of missing out on other qualities. Please bear that in mind before you judge women based on their clothes, interest in the kitchen or the confidence in their voice. My mother worked for 40 years. My wife is the COO at an international bank. It makes me proud. She doesn't make phulkas for me. We outsource that work to our help, and it doesn't really bother me. If my wife had spent her life in the kitchen, it would have bothered me more. Please choose your partner carefully. Don't just tolerate, but accept and even celebrate our successful women. They take our homes ahead and our country forward. We may have less hot phulkas, but we will have a better nation. — |
