| Author | Message | ||
Risingstar Legend Username: Risingstar Post Number: 40792 Registered: 08-2008 Posted From: 173.49.73.144 Rating: |
okavida raasaru idhi chudagane touch ayundhi.. I do not like reading the metoo posts. It ignites discussion, dialogue and debate. I do not think as a human civilization, we have reached maturity to challenge the root cause. I was touched in places where I should not have been much before I reached puberty. Most of these men were good natured, kind hearted human beings and were loved by rest of the people that I knew and for good reasons. I tried to raise the concern with one adult, who was not equipped or trained with right kind of response. It did not stop there, it used to happen in city buses and public places. That made me hate sex and opposite gender. The first person, I could love therefore ended up being a person who had shown significant self-restraint and I got married to him. From that point onwards, I was old enough and I could keep safe distance from men that I felt threatened by, so I never experienced it at work place. But metoo stories are not one sided, I know of many men who were touched by their teachers and other people in power. Reason, why we probably see, women raising their voice is that they may not sometimes be able to control the circumstances they are in, even after they feel they are old enough to gain their control and power. And in any case, which man in his right sense would be courageous enough to admit that they were powerless at some point in their life. Over the years I have learnt that these experiences had nothing to do with the country we grow up in, education, financial status or anything else that you would like to box it in. Because of the impact my experiences left on me, there are times when I read something or hear something, I am so filled with disgust and helplessness, that I cannot sleep and then I start trying to apply rational thinking to an act which might be governed by emotion and instinct rather than rational thinking. Today again, I slept normally and woke up in the middle of the night remembering a metoo story I read earlier today. I have done enough analysis over and over again that I went all the way back to prehistoric times and tried to understand why did marriage come into place, why did religion come into existence and lastly trying to understand when did man know that one ovum and one sperm produce an offspring. Basis my past analysis on this, here are certain things that need to change 1. If we are teaching children private parts, we should not teach them what is right and what is wrong, we should not teach them shame, purity, impurity and embarrassment. 2. We should not teach them holy scriptures, where people with desire were worthy of hell. 3. If we do all of that, we should have courage to protect them all the time or let them form their own opinions about sex, desire and actions resulting from that. 4. Finally, for the people who were at the receiving end of this, I will say move on. You can create sob stories, loathe stories, we are all victims of our own and other’s thoughts. People and circumstances are coincidental. We exist beyond this. Love yourself, you are not the only one, others just do not talk. There are better things to do in life than giving this more importance than it deserves. For the readers of this post, if you have something to gain from my experience and analysis I shared, please do that and move on. If you believe, it is a waste of your time, my apologies. Do not try to stir a debate or give me your expert opinion. This topic is still not without emotion in my system and it took a lot of courage and a lot of sleepless nights to come on to this platform and yet I am not as rational about it. I do hope I am giving courage to some of you to let go and move on. |
